I write a lot and a lot of the poems I wrote to her I'm pretty proud of but I'm getting married to a wonderful woman and in 2 minds whether to keep them or not. Parted with the ex on really good terms so there's no bitterness or anything like that....
2007-01-31 05:30:50 · 19 answers · asked by darkness_returns 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ask her if she would like to keep them. if she does not want to, than ask your new girl if she minds if you keep them. my husband had a bunch of pics of his ex from before we met that he had up in the closet, i asked him to get rid of them because he made me get rid of all my pics and poems of my ex fiance, there was no problem for either of us. its part of the past, and its time to move on. maybe your new wife wont mind if you keep them, to me poems and pics are different. i would have liked to keep my poems because i was proud of them, but i knew they would have made my husband uncomfortable, so i threw them away. its all about sacrifice for the one you love. i should know, i sacrifice my whole exsistence for my husband and i dont even get a thank you
2007-01-31 05:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP THEM. This is something I learned the hard way... I had all this memorbilia from me and my two exes, who I loved very deeply. When I met this guy, I went and threw everything away that I had shared with both those other guys because I thought I didn't need or want that stuff anymore, but trust me... you'll regret it. Just put them in a box and save them. One day, you will want to see those poems again........ As long as they're not taking up a lot of room, why not save them? See how you feel in a few years... then think about getting rid of them.
2007-01-31 05:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by mattysmommy2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 05:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are they good poems? Are they sappy and have peoples names in them? I'm always sorry later on down the road when i throw memorabilia away. I say keep the tasteful ones if you need to get rid of something.
Poetry is art and art is life, but if it bothers the new wifey ditch them. this is coming from a girl. but don't be afraid to keep them to look at later in your life.
2007-01-31 05:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by purplemonkey6662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does you girl know about them??
anyways, if you have a hard time parting with them, you may need to reconsider before you get married.
you may still love the ex, and you shouldn't do that.
the one you are marrying deserves to have your 100%.
if you are still stuck on someone else, yu can't give her that.
but if it's not that, you just think they are good poems, post them online, or try to have them pulished.
if it doesn't deminish the flow of the poetry, you might try changing the names in it, and then letting your girl read them, and posting them, and all that good stuff.
if you can tell your girl about them, that is the best thing to do, secrets are bad, she might find them one day.
but if you can't, and you can get rid of them, (even if you give them to someone else, or if you post them anonymously) then you don't have to tell her. because the skeletons in your closet can't be get you in trouble if you through them out in the street. because no one will know they are yours!
then they are just skeletons. not yours anymore.
making any sense here???
hope I could help.
good luck man.
I hope you hav efound true love
2007-01-31 05:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say keep them. Nothing like young love! Now that you both seem mature, it should not be a problem.
If you new wife has a problem with them then... file 13 them. Why make her feel uncomfortable?
2007-01-31 05:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i like to write poems to and some of my are towards the ex,s but the thing is are you wanting to keep them for memory purposes or just because its your work and its good cause mine was kept for the good but if it was one that had memory or would make me think of them then it was trashed.
2007-01-31 05:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it reminds u of ur x i saw u dont keep it but if its just poems and there is nothing in them then i say keep them.....i have all my poems dat i wrote to my ex's and i dont feel anything wen i read them so i kept them, i dont care.
2007-01-31 05:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep them in a memory box, then if you and your wife currently ever want to talk about previous relationships you can pull them out and say you would be willing to write her such poems
2007-01-31 05:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give them to your soon to be instead. I congratulate you
for remaing on good terms. I went through the same and it was
hard to remain friends.
2007-01-31 05:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋