I had an affair witha married man last year, well he ended it and told his wife. They are supposedly trying to fix theirmarriage. I KNOW he does miss me and love me, I dont know why he did this, so what if he had been married12 yrs. If he was happy e would not have taken me up on my offers. Problem is that SHE changed their numbes and I cant call him anymore, so I sent a letter and emailed him, well I got a call frm her saying THEY wanted nothing more to do with me and she saidif I contacted them again that she would sue me for alienation o affection orcriminal conversation...can she do this? Iknow he does not feel the same way, how an I stop her. Can I do anything abouther calling me an threatening me wih this, the lette ad the email were not even for her. Please help.
2007-01-31 05:25:34 · 14 answers · asked by 3rdparty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does anyone have any ideas howI can gt him to realize that I love him and miss himwithout that woman interfering?
2007-01-31 05:28:49 · update #1
this guy is MARRIED... he has chosen his wife over you... he wants to stay with his wife, they are making a go of it, you are just being bitter and twisted.. if you loved him like you think you do you would want him to be happy, and he has chosen to be happy with his WIFE not you!!
this is what you have to accept if you get involved with a married man, you are the bit on the side, thier bit of extra fun, nothing more, when pushed they will nearly always choose their wife and the security of the family they have built in their marriage.
let it be a lesson, find a single guy to be with
2007-01-31 05:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by merrpet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off....Law: Alienation of Affection is termed as this, "In United States law, alienation of affections is a tort action brought by a deserted spouse against a third party alleged to be responsible for the failure of the marriage. " There are only 7 states that allow for alienation of affection suits. (Hawaii, Illinois, North Carolina, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, and Utah) In those states are the only states she could file suit against you, and then she would have to prove it. (see links)
She is by far more likely to sue YOU for harassment and even stalking if you keep on the path you are on. That would be easier to win, and has more set precedent.
Second....HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!!! If he did love you he would be with you! This isn't a hard concept, but you have missed it. LET GO OF HIM AND MOVE THE HELL ON!
Third....Take this as a life lesson. Learn and grow from it. Take this opportunity to become a better person, and seek a relationship with a man who is available for your affections.
I hope I've helped because this is the best your going to get out of me.
2007-01-31 06:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go right up to their house, knock on the front door, and announce to the family that your ex-lover truly is in love with you. Continue on with the fact that he really wants to end his marriage, leave his family and run off with you... then just stand back and see what happens. If he packs his things and leaves with you, then you have your answer. If they let loose their Pit Bull on you and later have their lawyer serve you a lawsuit, then you have another answer.
You're just gonna have to let him go... the wife is not the problem and it's not a matter of stopping her. If the man truly loved you and is so unhappily married, he would have divorced from his wife a long time ago. He used you, plain and simple. He told you all the things you wanted and needed to hear, and once he was caught he, came clean with his wife IN ORDER TO SAVE HIS MARRIAGE. Now, he doesn't have the balls to tell you exactly what happened; he lets his wife do the dirty work.
2007-01-31 05:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a stock-er. You need to move on. She does have a right, as a wife, to bring stocking charges against you if you continue to disrupt their household. If he had wanted to continue the affair with you he would never have told his wife in the first place. If he loved you at all he would have divorced his wife so he could be with you. What he has done is the chicken crap way and let his wife do his dirty work for him, she is now his shield he is hiding behind. He wants nothing to do with you, he lets her chnge the number and she is reading his emails. So simple to get another email she knows nothing about and send you a note to say he misses you, but he is finished with you and your body.
2007-01-31 05:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he ended it why would you want to contact him? He does not sound like a prize worth fighting over. He had no respect for you or his wife when he got involved with you. Stop blaming HER she is left cleaning up his mess and probably not the first time. He found you without her interference before, if he wanted to converse with you now he could do so in spite of her interference. Move on and thank God you want be the one stuck with him and his drama.
2007-01-31 05:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your time with a married man. They have the right to change their phone numbers and all that. Leave them alone and get on with your life. Find someone else who is not married. (This relationship will never work. Even if he did dump his wife and married you then you will be in the same boat as his ex would. He will find another lover. It will never ends.)
Best of luck to you! =)
2007-01-31 05:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jadesparrow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your head screwed on straight. You got used, now deal with it and leave them alone. I'm sure he once had feelings for you....in his pants, but now he's trying to be a better man and work things out with his wife. This is what he wants, and if you love him you'll let it go. Shame on him for having an affair and shame on you for getting between a husband and his wife. Advice for the future: STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!!!
2007-01-31 06:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bayou Boy in Tx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay first off you made a mess yourself when you got involved with a married man . You were a bootie call and nothing else . yes she can sue you for allienation of affection there is a state statue in the state of North Carolina where a woman did this and she won . So yes to answer your ? about the fact that she can sue you . stop her ? she is his legal wife . there is nothing you can do move on and leave them alone . He went back to her cause he loves her and is willing to work on their marriage . Leave them alone . Please just move on . Facts are facts . He will stay with her . Move on and forget him.
2007-01-31 05:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're joking, right? Sounds more like you are harrassing them to me. And apparently he doesn't want anything to do with you or he would have contacted you, instead he dumped your butt and is trying to repair his marriage. News flash HE LOVES HIS WIFE or he wouldn't have dumped you. Get a clue home wrecker and leave him alone and yes they can sue you for harrassment among other things and they have probably already spoke with a lawyer. My only advice to you is move on and don't try to contact him again.
2007-01-31 05:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Troubled 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might miss you, but he never loved you.
Like all flings, you made him feel good. You were a thrill. You were fun. You were a different piece of A S S when he needed it. And now he doesn't need it anymore.
Stop her? She is trying to stop you. Leave them alone tramp.
2007-01-31 05:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋