Teen-aged pregnancy, Does anyone else find this disturbing??

Question

You know it really angers me at the number of teens that are intentionally trying to get pregnant by either tricking a guy into it, or just being selfish and thinking a baby would be fun and not thinking of how much of a responsibility it is to raise a child. I mean look at all of the couples who would love to have a child and then you see all of these irresponsible young teen-aged and even pre teen-aged girls getting pregnant because of entrapment or negligence. This really disturbs me because I don't think that people who are having kids for all the wrong reasons should be blessed like they are and the people who do deserve a child can't have one. Ugh this really does annoy the hell out of me

PLEASE READ THE QUESTION IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND IT DON'T RESPOND THIS IS NOT AN ATTACK AT YOUNG MOTHERS WHO GOT PREGNANT BY ACCIDENT I UNDERSTAND MISTAKES HAPPEN, HELL I WAS A TEEN-AGED MOM BUT I WAS TRYING TO GET PREGNANT I WAS MARRIED AND BOTH FINANCIALLY AND MENTALLY STABLE FOR A CHILD. I AM TALKING ABOUT THE GIRLS WHO ARE GETTING PREGNANT ON PURPOSE THAT KNOW THAT THEY CAN'T PROVIDE FOR A CHILD OR ARE JUST DOING IT TO KEEP A GUY OR WHAT NOT. READ THE QUESTION BEFORE ANSWERING SERIOUSLY I AM NOT ATTACKING THE YOUNG MOMS WHO ARE ACTUALLY PROVIDING FOR THEIR CHILDREN.

Answer 1

No. I don't find it disturbing because I'm 19 and I have a son--who was planned.

You may think you know everything when you look at young mothers but you don't. I'm sorry if you cannot conceive--I really am but don't take that out on young mothers.

I have a college education AND I’m certified in phlebotomy. I have traveled the globe and I have LOVED my life so far. I’m very fortunate to have all of my eggs in a basket.

I am an extremely responsible stay at home mother of not only my own child but my cousin who has been in my care for the past 2 years. Do we have any kind of government assistance? No. Do we have any kind of help from our parents? No, they live thousands of miles away.

I am a typical suburban mother [despite my age] who is just living happily with her husband and children. I live a happy life just like any other aged mother or family. Did I do it to trap my husband? NO! WE did it to have children. WE did it because WE loved my cousin so much that we wanted to start our own family.

Do you know what it feels like when you know you are doing the best you can but then someone comes up to you [that you don't even know] asks you why you are a whore? I bet not. I do, because when my husband was serving in Iraq a woman came up to me and asked while I was out grocery shopping with my cousin. To her surprise I didn't whip out food stamps. I didn't whip out my WIC check. What's funny is many middle aged mothers DO use WIC and Food Stamps. It's not just young mothers.

Next time you see a young mother, don't jump to conclusions on what her life is like because you're obviously ignorant enough to have NO idea.

--ANOTHER THING--I moved out when I graduated at sixteen years old. I was legally emancipated from my parents. That's when I got my college education. That's when I moved in with my boyfriend. [later on husband] Was it negligence on my parents part? I think not because I was legally an adult! My parents were awesome parents and also very strict but their rule was the minute we graduated high school we were adults in their eyes. The only reason why I was emancipated in because I previously lived in Germany where I met my husband [who then moved to NM] so I legally had to be emancipated in order to provide for myself.

Answer 2

Many of the girls who intentionally get pregnant do so to have "someone who will always love them." Unfortunately, they haven't ever had good parenting skills modeled for them, so they become neglectful parents. It's well documented that the brain is not completely developed until about the age of 25, and the last part to develop is the reasoning part and the area that lets us be able to predict the outcome of our actions. I'm also saddened that there are people who would be "the best" parents in the world who struggle to have children, while irresponsible teens think that a baby makes a cute fashion accessory.

Answer 3

I think that if you really looked at the numbers, you wouldn't find that many girls TRYING to get pregnant. Most of the time, the teens getting pregnant do so by accident. They don't think of using contraceptive, or are worried they'll get caught and into trouble, etc. From your nickname, I assume that you're wanting a baby, and I think that's clouding your perception some.

I understand that it seems unfair that people have kids for "all the wrong reasons", from your viewpoint , while others can't. But remember that just because you view it that their reasoning is "wrong" doesn't make it "wrong". I know some don't have children for good reasons, but many do (most, I'd say).. I don't think this is something you should just try to pin on all of those kids and women the blame for them getting pregnant while others cannot.


(To the person who answered before me, Chick-A-Dee?), you should probably take another look at the sex education programs. While I agree with you about adults not always being properly educated, the emphasis of most sex education programs IS abstinence. The big problem is that teaching only that is NOT helpful. There needs to be a combined system of abstinence is the only way you can't get pregnant at all, but use condoms and other forms of contraceptive if you're really going to do it. Preferably more than one type.))

Answer 4

I have mixed feelings on this subject. I am 18. I graduated from high school a year early. Half of my graduating class was pregnant. I got married 3 days after graduation. I am in college and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby since before we were married. In the town I live in there are girls in the JR. High pregnant. THat is just crazy. I think my opionion varies from person to person. Some of these girls have no clue what it takes to raise a child. For example my friend beth just had a baby in Nov. she just turned 17. She smokes pot and drinks while she is breast feeding. She doesnt put her baby in a car seat. Then there is my friend Tiffany who is 17 and just had a baby and she is doing everything greatly plus going to school (Beth dropped out.) In my town there is a 12 year old girl who just had twins. and the worst part is she willingly got pregnant by a 26 year old guy. Its just not fair... My husband and I want a child more then anything and have the funds and the means of raising a child. But all these girls that either don't want there baby or can't take care of a child can get pregnant. I think it depends of the intellingence of the the girl and the supporrt of the people around her.

Answer 5

Vato, I can't believe all those things you said. You must be a genius to have graduated college and high school at 16!! Wow! Kudos to you if you're not lying! And to have all that responsibility before you're even legally able to vote, drink, and smoke in the U.S.A. and are considered an adult legally here? Wow! That must be something! You should make the guinness book of world records for the youngest college graduate, and for the biggest liar! A stay at home mom? What are you doing with a college degree anyway?!

Answer 6

i was a teen age mom and i think that i am a dam good mom not all teens are irresponsible because they have a baby at a young age but i do think that some of them are and that they should think about adoption after the baby is born. but don't forget that even though some people can be young and have a baby does not mean that they will not be a good mom

Answer 7

Yes it is. Even more is that abstinence is said to not work. Do I have to say that is the 100% positive way to avoid pregnancy? It's sad that they don't emphasize this, especially when most teens want to or have become sexually active. They are more likely to get condoms or the pill thrown at them. No one is taught self-worth or respect, especially the girls.
Some kids don't even get the proper education about sex. This can be even more damaging. I see people that are asking questions like: can I get pregnant on my period, does "pulling out" really work, can i get pregnant if we have sex standing up, can I get pregnant if I have sex in the shower... The list goes on and on. THESE ARE ADULTS!!!!
If our adult community isn't properly informed themselves, how do we expect teens to know?

Answer 8

oh my goodness i thought honestly that i was the only one who felt that way!!!!! i hate the fact that these young girls are so ignorant,i mean where are the parents of these girls and why aren't they talking to them about safe sex?these girls really need to be more concerned with a good education not about what to name their baby.i just don't understand it at all!!!!i have a 11 year old daughter and i talk with her about sex,some people say that it is too early to be talking to her about sex ,but i look at it this way if i talk to her now maybe she wont go and make the mistake of having unprotected sex.i mean she is in middle school and this is when they start to think about boys and in this day in age this is when most of them start to have sex!! oh my i can go on and on about this topic!!i just think that there should be more sex education going on in the home by the parents they should't put it all on the school!! parents please talk too your children!!!!
oh and by the way from your nickname you must be trying to have a baby,well my advice to you is not to worry about it,it will happen for you just relax and try not to think about it when tgod feels the time is right you will have your baby.

Answer 9

i understand what you are saying but sometimes teenage girsl really dont want to get pregnant they can be trapped......i think that some people dont deserve a child but they do for all the wrong reason but thats life so deal with it!!!! you always doesn't get what you deserve

Answer 10

The biggest thing to remember is every action has consequences, they are now responsible for a human life. They may regret it when they get older, they may not.