I know Im still young and there a lot of time but...?

Question

I want to have children so bad, I want to get married, buy a house and be a mommy. I want to take my kids to the park and go buy them clothes, and fix there food, teach them how to walk, read to them, sing to them, rock them, bathe them, teach them how to swim, how to ride a bike, do their hair, wash their face, clean there nose...was anyone else like this when they were only 18?

Answer 1

You know what I am 18. I got married when I was 17. My husband will be 22 soon. We have been trying to have a baby sine before we got married. So you aren't the only one. All I have ever wanted was to be a mommy and a wife. I grew up in a home where my mom did 1st, 2nd, and 3rd shift daycare. Plus I have two 15 year old sisters an 3 year old brother and a 8 year old brother. My mom got sick soon after she had my 8 year old bro and I had to take care of him 95% of the time. I can't wait to be a mommy. You aren't alone.

Answer 2

Yes, it sounds very familiar...I was there...but without being able to give children complete family it's just not the same. Dear, you better wait and live a life for yourself first.. It's hard work to look after kids and although it seems like something you would like to do now, once you have to do it..it may not seem as appealing. It's better if you wait and mature a bit before you have children. You need to find a partner, a husband, a friend who would be there for you and love you...and once you are both ready you can together work on having children. But trust me, there is only few years that you can spend on yourself before having children so make the most of it. And if you really want to do the mummy job, get some idea and experience first. Do some babysitting or become a nanny. And then you may realise how hard the job truly is... Just give it time...

Answer 3

YES! My best friend was exactly like this at 18. Actually she dropped out of college freshman year to move to upstate NY withe her boyfriend. He was a little older (23 I believe) and owned a house up there. She was soooo excited and loved it at first....the whole idea of "playing house" as she called it. Since I had known her (since we were age 12) she had said that this was what she wanted...to be a wife in a house in the country and have kids. She didn't have the kids but frequently took care of her boyfriend's many nieces and nephews. WELL....after about 2 years things got bad. She tried so hard to like the life she thought she ALWAYS wanted....but the truth was...she was bored and wanted to have fun. After a lot of thought she moved back to her home state and reenrolled in college. She spent the next several years having the BEST time ever!!!! She is now 30 and getting married. She is so glad that she waited because she could never get those young free, traveling years back! Take it from me....I have a 4 month old baby and it is HARD. Sure, it is the most rewarding thing in the world....HOWEVER...I spent 10 years after high school getting a college education, partying, traveling, and meeting all kinds of people so that I would know when I met the right man and was ready to settle down. And it really is settling down. I have a hard time getting out to get my hair cut at this point. Seriously....wait...at least a couple of years. Go out tonight and have a few drinks. Hang out with some girl friends. Do something to remind yourself that you are at the prime of your life....there will be time later for marriage and kids and a house. ENJOY your youth...you don't get it back!

Answer 4

I have wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember. The most important thing to keep in mind is the kind of life you want to provide for your child. You can't rush things, they will happen when the time is right. Set goals for yourself and put everything you have into accomplishing them. Knowing that you're doing it for your future children really helps. Make sure you have a good education so that you can get a good job. Start saving your money now for a house. As for a spouse, those things just have a way of working themselves out. Once you have successfully completed all of your goals then the fun begins. You will then be prepared to support a child. Until then keep focused. This is what I have done, and it has worked out great. I finished college, got married, got a fantastic job, and have bought a house. I am now truly ready to bring a child into this world. Best of luck in all the future holds for you!!

Answer 5

Yes very much so. My biggest ambition in life has always been to get married and raise a family I can be proud of. Let me give you a little advice though. B VERY careful who fathers your children I wasn't with my first one and I am going through HELL now. I got pregnant by someone who wasn't who he said he was at 20 years old. I thought he wanted what I did and we were gonna be happy forever. NOT so He cheated on me for 2 years starting 2 weeks after we found out I was pregnant. I left him when I found out and now I've been divorced from him for almost 3 years and he hasn't paid child support in two and has given my 4 year old son severe separation issues with his sporadic popping in and out of his life (he will dissapear for 4 and 5 months at a time.) I am now 25 and married a second time to a wonderful guy He takes care of me (i am a stay at home mom) and my son and now our son as well. HE's only 21 and I think it takes a special guy to take on another mans resposibilities. We have bought a house, a dog and I stay home with our boys 4 and 7months old and things are wonderful (especially when the ex dissapears) So my advice is dream big but be patient. Good things really do come to those who wait. I know everything I ever wanted at 18 I now have. It is amazing being a mom is the most rewarding thing ever especially if you have the right guy to share it with. It melts me everytime I watch my baby grab his daddy's face and pull him close to kiss his cheek. And it especially warms me to see my first son in the driveway learning to ride his bike and yelling I did it daddy to my new husband who loves him like his own and is always there for him. Live your life first though cause once the babies come it's all about them. I have to admit it was very hard when my relationship started with my husband because I already had a child he didn't mind but we never had that couple phase we had a redi made family and sometimes I miss it. I think about the couple time i had with my ex and how much better it would have been with my new husbadn. I have 2 sisters who are about to get married and I've told them both First you need atleast a year of marriage to get in the swing of things and I'd take another year to just enjoy each other and then add the blessing of babies. I've rambled enough now but if you ever want to talk email me because I remember being where your at now.

Answer 6

Yeah I was....

...And then my sister had a boy and a girl. They drove me absolutely nuts, like literally, up a wall.

Now, I'm 21, married, and trying to have a little one. But since you brought out all the stuff I'll have to do for them, I'm not so sure anymore.

Thanks! I needed a slap of reality.

But as for you, take your time. You may want something totally different next month, and then again, you may still want the same thing.

Personally, I think you're mature enough already to at least get married since you already recognize what you'll be doing. But give it some time. Try to at least get married first. Rushing it may just lead to heartache though.

I truly feel ya, and wish you the best!

Answer 7

Its nice to get the complete package. Not just a portion. Work on the husband finding first. Find a gye thats great, would make a great father one day and that you would like to spend the rest of your life and then everything else will fall into place. Your life will be alot easier in the long run that way too.

Answer 8

youve seen babys now your brudy think of the not so good times sleepness nights, smelly nappies that get everywear............ theres your answer!