Our boy will be 1 on Fri. and my husband and I want to have another baby, which we are ready for another one... We want our kids to be close in age. Do you think its to soon? Do you think it will affect our son now? Need opinions..... no insults please
2007-01-31 04:55:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would wait give it until he is around 2 to or a little before that way your kids will be around 2 1/2 years apart he will be old enough to kinda understand what is going on and then as baby #2 gets older he can help watch and protect as well at this time you can get him potty trained with out a newborn screaming or crawling baby so while my second was unplanned my son is 2 1/2 years older than my daughter and while he picks on her some they play well together and he watches out for her when i do things like a little mommy in a way so give your son time to be his self and finish beeing a baby besides right now he probaly doesnt talk a lot so this way if you have morning sickness and are stuck in the bathroom at least you could shout to him and get some response if he was older as well being older when the belly gets big he will understand baby inside tummy compared to being around 16-18 months and either not caring or trying to figure out what happened so it seems better to wait and then clothes can be passed down with ease instead of baby # 2 catching up and passing big brother if that were the case so good luck in conception and my opinion is wait ~8 months
PS remember it may or may not be hard to get pregnant so take that into account as well
2007-01-31 05:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no if you are ready and so is your husband, why would it be too soon?? i have siblings that are almost exactly a year apart in ages where yours will be closer to two. whether it well affect your son, the answer is yes....it will affect your son whether or not you have anymore at any age :) the question is whether it will be a negative experience. that all depends on his personality and how he is prepared. there WILL always be a bit of jealousy there after the baby is born, that is natural. but make sure you make him apart of the whole thing. show him pictures of what the baby would look like at different stages of the pregnancy. bring him to some of your ob appointments (preferably ones that you won't have to undress at all for, unless you are comfortable with that) so he can hear the heart beat. let him help you shop for the baby supplies. and most of all make sure he still gets lots of attention and special "you" time after the baby is born. he should be just fine as long as YOU guys are ;) good luck!
2007-01-31 13:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by StinaMommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your over thinking this... it is never too soon if you are ready emotionally and financially, and you still have to get pregnant and carry the baby. So your looking at your son being closer to 2 by the time you have another. Your son will not be affected or feel neglected, he'll be happy to help with the baby and proud to be a big brother. Good luck!
2007-01-31 13:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our are 3 years apart, and that's working well for us. We didn't want to have two kids in diapers at the same time. Also, a 1 year old still gets carried around a lot, I liked that my son was no longer used to being carried so I didn't have to tell him no about that once the baby came. He's also a really good helper, fetching burp cloths, picking out clothes, helping give baths, singing to her, and more. Also, we won't have too much overlap with college tuitions when they're older.
2007-01-31 13:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 1...it is a good time to start trying for #2. A lot of people say that 2.5 years is the ideal spacing. I have kids that are 2 years 5 months apart and then the other spacing is 2 years 11 months. It is harder when they are real young and close in age (double diaper bills etc) but it gets easier because they are interested in playing with same toys etc.
2007-01-31 13:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by bgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think it is up to you and your husband. It sounds like you are ready for another one and he will be 19 months when the next is born. I say if you are ready then go ahead and have one. And I do think that it is nice to have them close in age.
2007-01-31 13:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i dont think its too soon! My son will be one on 02/14/07 and i just found out i am pregnant, due 10/01/07. Having them close together is good, this will be our last so we can get the diapers and baby stuff out of the way at once instead of dragging car seat, highchair, bottles out again in a couple years! good luck and go for it!!!!!
2007-01-31 13:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by gofaulk28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having kids close in age is tough! My girls are 3 1/2 years apart I thought that was ideal b/c the older one was just starting preschool so she had time away from baby and I had alone time to bond with baby!
2007-01-31 13:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by lola 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I t shouldn't effect your son at all he might be a little jealous at first but he will be fine. he will be close to 2 by the time you have a baby and that's a good age difference between them.
2007-01-31 13:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is 18 mths between mine and they are gr8 together. My girl loved my bump and would hug it all the time, I just kept talking to her about what was going on. The bonus with having them close together is they don't remember a time when the new sibling wasn't there. Good luck and Happy B'day to your boy :-)
2007-01-31 13:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by maidmaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋