how to say goodbye?

Question

I've tried all your advices, but the deep hole still remains within. I have my bro's ashes now, but feel lost...

Answer 1

Sorry for your loss........ The reality is, this will take time, maybe years. All I can say is be as strong as you can while you deal with your grief. I just said a prayer for you.

Answer 2

Sorry for you loss. you can grieve for the rest of you rlife or you can try to make positive from this. yes your bro is gone but not forgotten. you can fill that deep hole inside you with him. it not a cut fast way but take one day at a time. would he really want you to feel this way? take what he gave you and live life to the fullest.

here is a poem the i heard a passing of a loved one

"Time does not bring relief; you all have lied
Who told me time would ease me of my pain!
I miss him in the weeping of the rain;
I want him at the shrinking of the tide;
The old snows melt from every mountain-side,
And last year's leaves are smoke in every lane;
But last year's bitter loving must remain
Heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide.
There are a hundred places where I fear
To go - so with his memory they brim.
And entering with relief some quiet place
Where never fell his foot or shone his face
I say, 'There is no memory of him here!'
And so stand stricken, so remembering him."


Edna St Vincent Millay (1892 -1950)

Answer 3

My father's been dead for 30 years. Mom almost 24 years, brother (only sibling) no children 13 years. Never a day I don't think of them. I do my best to live a descent life and I hope they'd be proud of me. Married no kids and on a budget. Lost my best friend from childhood last year. I talked to him afew days before, saw him laid out then his funeral in ashes. First funeral of that type for me and it really hurt. I stared at the small box and said to myself "Thats all thats left of him. Time does heal all wounds but if you truely loved them you never forget. God Bless.

Answer 4

Keep moving forward. When it gets hard push yourself with the knowledge thatyou have the opportunity to honor him in your actions, and show that you were made stronger by knowing him, and that he is a part of every kind, generous, thoughtful thing you do. You can carry his memory with you - but use it as a guiding force, and do not let it be a weight.

Answer 5

The closer to your brother you were, the longer it will take to feel better. Talking about your brother to people who are supportive, will help. Talk, talk, and more talk seems to help. My sister died a tragic death; it was a year before her death was not the first thing I thought of when I woke up in the morning. Time doesn't heal all wounds, but it sure helps ease the pain.

Answer 6

Time, like everyone is saying, only time, more time, will soften the grief. Develope your relationship with God through Jesus, and He will give you an inner joy that makes everything more bearable. I just prayed that the Lord softens your grief. Start helping others and become involved in their needs. I have found that this helps. God bless you.

Answer 7

The Truth is that you can never say goodbye no matter how hard you try, just think about them good times you both had and that should make it easier. that helped me when i lost my grandad, so it might just help you.

Answer 8

you may need some therapy to help you cope with your feelings, that and some good medication helps too.

Answer 9

sorry for your loss. He will ALWAYS be close..in your heart.

Answer 10

It take time. slowly. I hope your are okay.