out yet, has never had sex. I kissed him for the first time, he has never been kissed before. he said that he feels the same way I do. he wants to spend his life with me. do you think he really feels like this or do you think I am setting myself up to get hurt again?
2007-01-31 04:36:24 · 17 answers · asked by just a single dad 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ya know.....I try not to be homophobic, but there's something about that kind of talk that just turns my stomach. I SWEAR, I'll try to do better, but it just doesn't seem right.
2007-01-31 04:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't know how long you have known this guy so it is kind of hard to answer. Just the same I'll give it a try.
Get to know each other. Have a few dates. When he feels comfortable enough move on to the next level, uh yeah I mean sex. After seeing each other for a while and when it feels right you might want to live together.
Your name is Just a Single Dad so possibly you have been thru this in a hetero relationship. Most of the same conventions apply when it comes to dating and relationships it just happens to involve two men instead of a man and a woman.
2007-02-04 11:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by hernandoguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be careful here, cos it sounds to me that this guy is an emotionally dependent sort of person, and it doesn't necessarily mean that he loves you. He isn't out of the closet, never been kissed and never had sex. I think he is just infatuated with you. Please don't confuse infatuation with love, because love takes time to develop and you just can't love a person out of the blue. I think you're just setting yourself up to get hurt again if you just go with your emotions now. You need to take a step back and relaly evaluate the relationship with this guy. In addition, there are a lot of narcissists out there who only care for their own welfare and you really don't want to be with someone like that cos it will never be a mutual love in such a relationship. I'm not saying that he is such, just asking you to take precaution. Please believe me because I know what I'm saying. I've been there before.
2007-01-31 13:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by xander 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Danger. It's possible he really does love you and want to be with you forever - but remember the first time you kissed a guy and how intense it was as a first time experience. Give it some time to settle and him some time to not be so new to it all and then make big commitments, not now. I certainly thought that I was in love with my first boyfriend (and we most definately did not end up together.) But it you love him, go for it. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all and all that.
2007-01-31 12:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe he felt like that at the time. Whether he feels that way now is something I'm not sure of. As it was said before me, I'd advise you to take your new and wonderful relationship slowly. No-one knows what the future holds. I wish you the very best of luck. :)
2007-01-31 12:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mooks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if you have those feelings then most likely you've acted on them at a certain point or age so you may be setting yourself up to get hurt.
2007-01-31 12:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Get to know each other a lot better before even thinking about any kind of commitment.
2007-01-31 12:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like anything new be careful, I just don't want you to be broken hearted over this. He needs also to come into terms with who he is and figure that out. Remember your happiness is important as well
2007-01-31 12:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer that. you have to decide if he is worth the risk because it may take him years to come out or never.
I hope this helps...
A gay couple is lying in bed. The blonde man says to his boyfriend, "I am going to make you the happiest guy in the world"
The boyfriend says, "I'll miss you....."
2007-01-31 12:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you it sounds like you are just setting yourself up ot get hurt.
2007-01-31 12:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all you can do is to take things slow and give it time. It is better to have loved and to have lost than to not have loved at all.
2007-01-31 12:41:35 · answer #11 · answered by Miss Informed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋