I met my boyfriend when I was 18. We met the first day I was in college, because I joined the collegiate newspaper staff and he was already a member. We co-wrote lots of articles together and had all of our classes toegther (we were both journalism majors). We got to be good friends and both graduated. He worked in our college town and I moved away for a year. We kept in close contact and when I moved back we moved in together and have been having a live-in realtionship for 8 months now. I am kind of seeking a propsal now. We are in graduate school togther and I like the idea of a long engagement and the commitment factor. He had already said that he wants to be with me forever, but although it sonds kind of greedy, I want the symbolism of a proposal and a ring...although there is no need for a large ring. After living together/dating for 8mos and being friends with him for several years (5) is it too soon to get married, typically speaking?
2007-01-31 04:20:40 · 4 answers · asked by jrhod263 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't think it's too soon. He may not have popped the question because he may not be able to afford the ring he wants for you. Even small rings can be pricey, and you two are still in school, after all. He may think that once he asks, you may get antsy and rush towards marriage, which definitely should be put off until you are completely finished with school, to avoid financial strains.
If you have talked to him about it, it could be that he is ready but wants to catch you completely off guard in order to surprise you. When you bring it up, he may have to delay again. He may not wish for you to feel that he caved in to your demands. He may wish to make you feel that he is asking completely on his own, so that you will not have to question his loyalty. I know that I would not want somebody to propose simply because I wanted him to.
If you haven't talked to him, do so. Explain your feelings and a basic timeline that would be beneficial to you both. Afterwards, don't bring it up again, give him time to process the information, save up for the ring, and proper length of time to surprise you.
You are normal. Very smart and lucky to find a great guy. Don't pressure him too much or you may be sorry.
2007-01-31 04:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be able to pass on forever with this question despite if it incredibly is backside lined. the variety one mistake women persons make is to start pushing for marriage. you have in basic terms lived together for 8 months and are nonetheless youthful and in college. Your futures at the instant are not even set yet much less engagment. be chuffed merely being together and becoming together and it will ultimately look to him that he will never decide to be everywhere else. Forcing the challenge for symbolism is generally a dying knell. as quickly as you have been together longer the marriage element could be suggested subtly. the ultimate thank you to get somebody to desire something is to cause them to sense its their concept.
2016-10-16 09:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by carris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. But your opinion of a relationship and his opinion may not be the same. This is something that you're going to need to discuss with him. Hopefully, everything goes as you want it. Best of luck to you........
2007-01-31 04:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that its too soon , he may want to wait till he can get you that really nice ring though.
2007-01-31 04:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ray H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋