I asked an earlier question yesterday titled My Marriage. If you'd like to read it it's closed and under Marriage and Divorce.
Anyhow, I'd like to clear a few details before I ask my question.
There has been only pushing, and yelling between my husband and I. Also, I have moved out, living with my mother at the time. We have a 2 month old daughter, which he does simply adore. Both of us have extreme tempers that flare quickly.
Just so you know, I do not blame myself for his behavior. I do say though that I am a person that aggravates others, which does not help the situation. I want to work this out between us, and we still have some options left. If they don't work, then yes, I will be getting a divorce from him. If we do get this help, I will not be living with him during that time.
Now my question to you is, if we decide to try and fix things before they get any worse, would you suggest a therapist for each of us to see, a marriage counselor, or both?
2007-01-31 04:20:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In order to make it work between you - both of you need to decide you are going to make it work - at all costs, and YES, see a counselor together to work on your issues together. In addition, you both should separately see therapists in order to get your anger issues under control, and attempt to keep those tempers down - this might require drugs. First thing, though is to go about whatever you decide with a positive attitude, and KEEP that positive attitude.
If even a part of you thinks well, if it doesn't work, I can divorce him, it's never going to work - you have to WANT it to work in order to MAKE it work!
good luck!
2007-01-31 04:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by are_see_bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok my answer is this you both need counseling for each of you and a marriage counseling so yes both is needed asap.... Living with your mom is wise for now until you can both get the help you need and do not get back together until things start to get better.
2007-01-31 13:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes both. or you could learn what presses each others buttons and work on not doing that. It does sound like you two have some anger managment problems.
2007-01-31 12:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by sydb1967 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both. Sounds like you both have your own issues, and issues together. Maybe some anger management classes would help.
2007-01-31 12:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋