My sister, 13, has been skipping school to be with her boyfriend, 18, to have sex... My mom is so MAD..but....

Question

Now She is putting me on restriction to.
My sister has skipped the last 3 days of school she is a 8th grader
And her bf is 18 and a senior.
My sister didnt use a condom.
I dont know what to tell her.
She has been very sick.
My Mom was worried until she looked at my sisters grades online
and saw that she hasnt been going to school.
We used ept, pregency test, she came out Positive!
My mom is still deciding to get her an abortion or keeping it.

What should My MOM do?

Answer 1

Your mother needs to press charges against the 18 year old boyfriend. That's a 5 year age difference and he can get arrested for statutory rape. She's a baby! She doesn't need to be having sex at her age or have a boyfriend who's so much older than her. I would sit her down, give her a good talking to, and take her to therapy because she's going to need it, whether she has the baby or not. Also, she needs a baby sitter. Your mother should check online whether she's been to school daily and now that your sister knows she can do that, she should know better not to skip again. I'd find someone to stay with her, walk her to her bus stop, and make sure she gets home safely and watch her til then. Having kids at her age is serious business. She needs to finish school and grow up like a normal kid. I'd say go for an abortion, just to save her childhood, and so that she can focus on school.

Answer 2

She should call the police and have the boyfriend arrested.
Your sister needs a lot of help because she has been exploited and may feel like she is in love, but the man is an adult and knew exactly what he was doing, and she didn't. She will need some good counseling with somebody who understands these issues, and she will need a lot of love from her family, even if she acts rebellious. She will need to be watched closely so that she doesn't get into more trouble and so that she will continue her education.
Let her have the baby and place it for adoption; it's the right thing to do. An abortion is very traumatic to a young girl who will probably identify with the baby and wonder why everybody wants her baby dead. But she's too young to raise the child, in my opinion, and there are lots of nice couples who wait for years to get a baby.
I know that all of this is a tall order, and it may not work out exactly the best way, but with effort and love you can all get through it.
Now don't neglect your own education and don't get pregnant yourself! Good luck.

Answer 3

your mom needs to do a couple of things.

1. she needs to file a police report against her boyfriend for doing
this. this is stagatory rape.

2. abortion is not a good idea. just let her have the child unless you find out having the child may cause her to lose her life. when having a abortion, you are still killing a live human being. she needs to have it if she can. then she needs to take on all of the responsibilities of being a parent that she can. she is too young to work of course but she can do a lot of other things to take care of a child. once she is old enough to work then she needs to get a job to help provide. she also needs to get state assistance for help with the expenses of having a child. it probably won't be much but in this case every little bit helps.

give and get your sister all of the support she needs and go after the boy the got her pregnant. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 4

Well, At first, The best thing is to go to the police, because is unlawful that a 18 years old guy had sex with a child.
And with the baby... Isn´t your mom´s decision, if your sister was "so mature" to have sex, she can decide:
* If she keeps it, Is the end of her childhood : No more parties, no more going out with friends, etc,
* DON´T ABORT PLEASE! The baby is a human being like you, me, your sister, etc.
* For me, the best decision, is to give it to adoption, there are a lot of people who are looking for a baby.
I hope you have good luck and take the best decision

Answer 5

Call the cops on the boy. Personally, I'd have her keep the kid and do the childcare. Nothing brings down a teen more than having a crying baby to deal with 24/7. Don't watch the baby for her. Let her learn how to be responsible for the first time in her life. Hard to sneak out and have sex if she's gotta drag the kid along too. I think if she thinks sex is so much fun, its time for her to learn its not a game. That baby shouldn't be killed because your sister was stupid. I'd take that boy to court for child support too! He's just as responsible as your sister. If she has an abortion, she'll just go back to having sex. Being pregnant might just be the best thing for her. At least she'll think about her actions.

Answer 6

For beginners your mom needs to get the law involved your sister is 13 years old and the boy is 18 which makes him a legal adult and your sister a minor which boils down to "satutory rape" Id have him arrested to start with.

Answer 7

Your mom isn't decided whether to keep it or not. It is your sisters baby. Your sister now has parental rights on this baby. Your sister is now a mom. You are now an aunt and your mom is now a grandmom. Do you get the picture? Your mom doesn't make the decisions for her daughters baby unless she has custody of it...AND SHE DOESN'T! Your mom can't force your daughter to have an abortion because your sister is now legally considered an adult and she has to sign the papers for an abortion, and your mom can't force her to sign them.

Answer 8

1st of all, have the boyfriend arrested for statutory rape! He's an adult and your sister is a child.

Once that scum bag of a man is gone, then you mom can deal with your sister and the counseling she needs. The baby should be put up for adoption!

Answer 9

1. Your sister needs to accept the consequences of her actions. I know that 13 is young, but if your mom allows her to get an abortion, she will simply persist in her deviant behavior and continue because there were no repurcussions for her poor decisions.

2. Your mom needs to stop punishing you. Just because your sister made poor choices does not ad hoc necessitate that you will do in kind.

3. Your mom needs to report this boy for rape. Consensual or not, having sex with a 13-year-old is AGAINST THE LAW. This boy needs to face the music too, else he'll continue to ruin the lives of other young girls. If you are afraid to do it in person, call a secret witness hotline or similar in your area, but get the police involved against this tramp.

Answer 10

Your mom cannot make the anser for her anymore by law. I think it would be wronge for you mom to try to make her have an abortion you know even if you sister or you mom didnt want to take care of the baby there are many of people out their who cannot have children that would love to adopt a baby from the usa.