Ok, so I finished college in Dec. & I have the option of walk'n across the stage in June. I don't want to, but my fam is making a huge deal about it b/c I would be the 1st in my immediate fam to graduate college. Alas, I am torn. No one in my fam ever helped me through college. I never really received any encouragement when I was in school from my fam members, they just never said anything about it. School was like a burden to them, b/c I was always asking them to change the dates of events so I could attend. When I told my fam that I would not be walking across the stage (my choice - reasons about the school) I was immediately TOLD that I had to. I would not feel a sense of accomplishment by walking but just an obligation to my fam. I have told them this is how I feel and they basically all told me that they'd be disappointed if I didnt walk especially my mom.
Im confused b/c; well its college graduation but I'm not overjoyed at the thought of walking... what should I do.
2007-01-31 04:08:50 · 4 answers · asked by Army Gal 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I think this would depend on if you want to keep the peace in the family. I mean how important to them is it? Maybe the reason you didn't have any encouragement from them was because they were embarrassed or felt threatened/overwhelmed by something they didn't really know much about. It's at least possible. I'm not saying you should do it, however, I think you should do what you want to do because ultimately you are the one who has done all the work and it's your life, after all. But maybe this is the one time when your family feels like they can recognize what you've done and it might hurt them if you don't do it. Of course you might be hurt because they've not really encouraged or been there for you during college, but if you want to look past that and think of them, like they should have thought of you, then I'd so go ahead and do the walk. Just wear comfortable shoes. ;)
2007-01-31 04:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finishing college is a big deal and you should be so proud of yourself for your accomplishment! Hold your head high, walk across the stage, get your degree, and smile! You did good!
Your family is so proud of you. They just don't know how to show it.
2007-01-31 08:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by tami1215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right to you. If they showed no interest in your education or invested any time, money, or moral support, then why do you feel you owe them? If you don't want to walk, then I wouldn't. Don't do it just so your family can have a sense of pride that maybe they in some farfetched way contributed to your success.
Congrats!
2007-01-31 04:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel but you should walk. You only have one family if it they really want to see you walk you should let them. It's only a few hours out of your day!
Congrats on finishing school!
2007-01-31 04:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋