Okay so I met this person online and we are JUST FRIENDS. he has a g/f and i have a b/f. I have seen him on webcamand on the phone so i know he is real. (you know those webcam phones). anyways, we started talking and all and now he said he likes me. and he wants to meet me. how should i tell him that he is REALLY nice && a great friend, but I have a b/f and i cant cheat on him. (he broke up wth his g/f because of me). He lives in the same city as me too.
2007-01-31 04:05:58 · 52 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay to everybody out there saying i am cheating on my boyfriend I said ME AND THIS GUY ARE JUST FRIENDS OKAY!!!I have no intention of taking it further.
2007-01-31 04:11:41 · update #1
I wouldn't meet him in person if I were you. If he broke up with his girlfriend then he clearly has romantic/sexual intentions towards you. In any event, he sounds unstable and even if he's not going to rape and/or kill you, you probably don't need the extra drama in your life. Who does?
2007-01-31 04:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by melaskinados 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your approach was unprofessional and reckless. It has to be made clear that you are NOT interested in a relationship right at the beginning! Saying that you have a boy friend does NOT mean that you are hundred percent "Hit" free. Now look what he has done. He has lured you into a "minimum level" pressure situation. If he wants he can go up to "High level" pressure and make you feel guilty. But do you really like him? If you do then you should give it a shot. But do you want to leave your bf for this guy? The meeting part is a big NO-NO. Make excuses to extend your 'acquaintance' level to at least a year. See if he sticks to you (means REALLY likes you) or if he was just a testosterone junkie.
And what do you mean JUST FRIENDS? You said clearly that he left his GF for YOU! HELLOOOOOOO? Isn't this a one way infatuation?
2007-01-31 04:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the perfect excuse...a boyfriend! Tell him you're sorry if you led him to believe that you felt the same about him as he feels about you, but you're already in a committed relationship and you don't think it would be a good idea to meet in person. If he gets mad, you'll know he's a creep and that you made the right decision! And if he's cool about it, you'll still have a good friend who will support you, no matter what you do.
I don't know if you can go to police if he hasn't threatened you in any way. If he starts to threaten you or if he starts showing up where you live, go to school, etc., definitely contact the authorities.
2007-01-31 04:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Smooth Criminal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best way to go. Tell him point blank that you like him and care about him as a friend, but that is all there is to it. Now the question you need to ask yourself is do you want to meet him as a friend? Can he accept that he is just a friend? If so then when or if you do meet him make sure you do so in public safe place and that you arrange a safe call.
Safe Call: a friend knows where you are and who you are meeting, meet in a public place, and then have prearranged phone call to friend.
But you have to be honest if you are really a friend, and you have to do what is best for you.
2007-01-31 04:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by nowment 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was in this same situation, only with a guy that she knew in person. And she told him "You know, I like you, but I have a boyfriend and I care about him more than anything, and if you like me, you'll understand that I just want to be friends. I'm sorry that you misunderstood my feelings towards you."
Just let him know in a very sincere way that you still want to be friends, but that you care very muhc about your boyfriend, and dont intend to leave him. Considering you live in the same city, and that he dumped his gf for you, this is probably pretty difficult and very stressing. I'd let your boyfriend know as well, so that if this guy gives you any trouble, your boyfriend will believe you and not take the other guy's side.
2007-01-31 04:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mellissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you ...12 ? You KNOW better than to meet some guy online. Do you have a death wish? NO!!! You should NOT meet this loser.He broke up with his girlfriend for some girl he met online.That sounds like a real "special" guy.Are you crazy? Stop talking to this guy.Your life could be on the line.
2007-01-31 04:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a responsibility to let everyone involved know where the boundries are. I think you MUST tell the online guy exactly what you said here. I enjoy or have enjoyed talking with you but I am not intrested in anything besides JUST FRIENDS. Then clearly define just friends to him and yourself. Does that mean you will just talk online?maybe, maybe not. Whatever you decide stick to that. Be honest with yourself about what you want from the relationship. If he doesn't have anything to offer you don't waste your time. Reaffirm for yourself what you feel for your current b/f by explaining how you feel for your b/f to the online guy. Most importantly don't feel guilty about it. We can't please everyone. If he starts to be pushy about things or doesn't respect clear boundries that you set then you should tell someone close to you or contact police if necessary.
2007-01-31 04:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by amanda_momof3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just be honest with this guy. Tell him directly about your boyfriend and your intentions to stay with him and not cheat on him. It is not your fault that he broke up with his girl it is his. The fact that he likes you now is also his issue not yours. Sometimes ppl end up getting feelings for their friends. It is natural. Just be upfront with him A.S.A.P. That way he will know what is real and he can move on and find someone else. I wouldn't be scared of him till he gives you a reason to be. Good luck!
2007-01-31 04:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know again that you have a boyfriend.
It isnt always a ood idea to meet poeple you dont really know from the net no matter how long you've known each other.
If you do plan on meeting him though take someone along with you jsut in case.
2007-01-31 04:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you 'meeting' other people online anyway. You have a boyfriend, so if you are not happy with him, then break up and start the process the right way. You are cheating on him already! Peoples desires usually turn into real actions after thinking on them! Online dating,.....please,......how scary!
2007-01-31 04:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have a boyfriend. Why doesn't he already know this? I would stop using the webcam too. I wouldn't be scared of him but you really need to be cautious of what's going on. Keep communication strictly to e-mails and instant messaging. You know the situation best and if you feel uncomfortable then you should stop doing what you're doing.
2007-01-31 04:10:05 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋