what do u think about gay people?

Question

im asking this because i have a lot of guys in my school that are like that and the bad thing is that they seat next to me and they homo
what should i do???

Answer 1

I love them!

Answer 2

Look around you with a fresh eye next time you are at school, or anywhere for that matter. You will see kind people and jerks, intelligent and stupid, thoughtful and mindless. You will find people who seem to be balanced and together all the time, but mostly you will see that everyone has their personal challenges. The specific nature of their challenges varies, both by complexity and social acceptance.

Being gay is another challenge, not unlike the rest, but socially far more volatile. Just as others deal with their challenges in aggressive or non aggressive ways (the person abused at home may be a bully or an introvert) so too do homosexuals. There are homosexuals who are kind, considerate, thoughtful and well adjusted, and there are those who are aggressive, rude and abusive. It's all in how they are trying to cope at the moment. For a moment also consider that being gay is primarily a challenge for social reasons. If society and religion did not judge it in a negative light, these people would have far fewer problems. Also consider these people most likely did not choose their challenge. This is in contrast to the bully who can decide not to abuse people, or the socialite who could choose not to concern themselves with popularity.

Homosexuality is a sexual bias. You have one as well. You are attracted to people of the opposite sex. How you deal with that attraction, how you pursue your desires, how you use restraint and how much you consider the emotions and self esteem of others determines if it is a problem or not. How is this any different for a homosexual? How should it be different? If a woman I consider very unattractive aggressively and rudely propositions me on a regular basis it makes me uncomfortable. If any man does the same my response is the same. If a woman I do not consider attractive does not pursue me in a rude or aggressive manner there is no problem. If a man who is gay does not pursue me there is again no problem. I have female friends I do not consider personally attractive to me, I have gay friends I am obviously not attracted to as well. I am not gay by the way.

Conversely I have gay female friends that I do find very attractive. I try to treat them with the same respect I would expect a gay male friend to treat me with.

If being around gay members of the same sex bothers you even though they are not rude or aggressive towards you, and here I am assuming you are male, consider how females feel around males at your age most of the time. Odds are the majority of them are no more interested in you than you are in the gay males that sit next to you. Do you stare? Do you make off color comments? Do others?

That someone is gay in the larger context is just another variation in how we are all different. How they deal with being gay is what makes the difference in how I deal with them. But then how anyone deals with their sexuality, be they gay or straight, makes the same difference doesn’t it?

As a last consideration, being gay is probably one of the most challenging social and emotional situations to deal with. To come to terms with a sexual bias that is spurned by society and in fact one for which society condones social and often even physical abuse in response to is nearly an unfathomable emotional struggle. To be well adjusted and gay requires some of the most serious and thoughtful self analysis, self awareness and courage. How many people are up to that kind of challenge? The gay individuals I have met you have dealt with that challenge successfully are some of the most well balanced, stable, considerate human beings I have ever met.

Answer 3

First, being gay is not a disease that you can catch...so dont be so homophobic. Being gay describes someones "sexual preference" . We as heterosexuals need to understand that we work, live, and play around gay people everyday. You could be sitting next to a gay man, with a straight female friend , at the movies, and not even know he is gay...what does that mean....absolutely nothing. Although there are some gay people who like to broadcast they are gay, its just the same as two heterosexuals kissing in public. Just be nice to them and treat them with respect. Just b/c they are gay does not mean they dont deserve to be respected. Dont use words like homo, ******,etc....just because they have feelings as well, and we should treat one another the way we want to be treated. You will be fine, just relax.

Answer 4

If you're not gay, they probably are not interested in you. Assuming that you are a male - does every straight girl come on to you? Do you come on to every girl?

Gay is not a disease, don't be so concerned about someone else's decisions in life - live your own life.

And, no I am not gay. I have been happily married for years, with kids and personally don't believe that the gay lifestyle is acceptable from my Christian beliefs. But, I also believe that as a Christian, I have to love all of my neighbors and to not judge others - that is for God to decide. After all, I don't believe in lying, but still associate with liars (just don't trust what they're saying).

Answer 5

You should respect them for who they are. But that doesn't mean you have to agree with what they do. Who knows why people are gay (if someone tries to give you facts or evidence that people are gay for a particular reason it is wrong, because there is insufficient evidence), but that shouldn't matter. I have gay friend who are awesome. That being said, I don't understand why some of them have to be up in your face about their sexuality, it doesn't help their cause. (I'm the same way with straight people that are all skanky and sexual in public).

Answer 6

Boy you know you like them sitting next to you. Don't act like you don't like those gay boys. You should study HARD in class and ask the gay guy sitting next to you to give you a hand.. ; )

Answer 7

Not to be insulting but maybe...

Grow up and act like an adult perhaps?

Really I am not trying to be insulting, I am being sincere.

Growing up I didn't know what a "Gay Person" was. My parents didn't tell me. and its not because they are opposed to homosexuality mind you, its they had one rule about dealing with people "Every one if worthy of respect until such time as an individual proves him self unworthy of respect."

they never taught me about race or religion or color, it was about the person as an individual.

Ok, my first expeience actualy seeing some one who was openly gay and making out with his boyfriend was a bit on the embarassing side (my responce was along the lines of "What the #@^% are they doing?!?!?!" in front of my whole Philosophy class). but it was not disgust mind you, it was the fact I had no idea what they were doing.

in anycase... besides my initial shock, I had no ill will or bad feelings about the two guys. they were just two guys who happen to be boyfriends. it did not affect me, it did not interfere with my life and it certainly did not mean i was gay. They were simply two people and thats all I saw. Hell one guy was in some of my classes and we sat next to each other quite a bit.

I am not saying you have to like what they do, or like them as individuals, but you should learn to respect the fact they have just as much right to be who they are as you do.

Trust me when you get in to the real world you are going to see some things that will blow your mind, and if you can't even handle some one who is gay sitting next to you, then you are doomed friend.

best of luck

Answer 8

Well El master is El Idiot Troll.

First get an education (I looked at your other questions and you definitely need education) and secondly, why the concern? Are you interested, after all, why the freak out or is it more truthful to say you want to get your freak on.

Answer 9

the only way you can be sure that the gay won't rub off on you and give you gay cooties is if you stop bathing, wear the same clothes all the time, never shave or brush your teeth and if you can manage it, puke all over yourself and don't clean it up.

oh, also be sure to wear a big thick strand of whole garlics around your neck...

lets face it, clean clothes, shaving, having nice breath and not have crud all over you is for fags...

Answer 10

You could move. ~Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby," in response to a reader who complained that a gay couple was moving in across the street and wanted to know what he could do to improve the quality of the neighborhood

Answer 11

Sounds like you must go to an all-boys school. Well, in that environment, some homosexual activity is bound to occur.
Just ignore it, be yourself and if they approach you, simply say you're not interested, but flattered they thought of you.
Trust me...it's definitely a compliment.