How far can you stand when your partner is seduced by someone prettier and sexier than you?Can you bear with it?How do you overcome it...even i know jealousy cant solve the problems but how can you control?
2007-01-31 04:00:50 · 16 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My very dear Young Lady, I had a good freind of mine (or who I thought was a freind of mine) try to seduce my Partner of over 25 years (we're both lesbian, but she can swing bi..?) We were having some long term emotional problems and he "offered to just *cuddle*" knowing that cuddling would turn into something much more and that he would make certain it would get back to me. he's just like that, the little poop-head. Thankfully she turned him down cold and nothing happened.
She was good enough to tell me about the whole incident and we both had a long talk. Thankfully our problems have come around but the freindship with him ended right there. It's taken a great deal to be civil to him at all. (some part of me would like to gouge his eyes out with a spoon or at least my own fingers and leave him blind...grrrrrrrrrr)
You control because you have to, because you don't want to give the other person the satisfaction of knowing that they were able to hurt you. You can plan their demise in either subtle or obvious ways in your head but you never EVER go through with it. Then you simply step into the situation and rescue your partner from their evil vicious clutches. Vengence is still a dish best served very cold. Blessings.
2007-01-31 04:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a jealous person but when someone is coming onto my guy I get pissed off. You just don't come onto someone who is taken.
Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about 3sums. Not that we want to do it but the whole concept of it. I said I could never do it because the moment the girl went for anything with my boyfriend I'd be smacking her around. And if it were a guy, well I don't want 2 guys. haha I don't want a girl either but it was just a generalized thing. ANYWAY.
But even if girls call my boyfriend and I don't know who they are I ask a lot about it. I'm sorry but in todays world it's dog eat dog and I'm not going to let some girl try to get close to my bf.
If your partner is being seduced by some other person than you need to put a stop to it before it gets worse.
lay the smack down on some hoe. haha.
if you can't trust your partner get out of the relationship. I know that's hard but it's easier than dealing with catching them with someone else....
2007-01-31 12:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship is based on trust & mutual respect. If your partner is interested in others regardless of what they look like, they are not interested in you! Nor should you waste your heart ache on them. You cannot control the way your partner feels about others ..... that's where the trust comes into the relationship & if they were committed to you they would not be "seduced" by anyone else. If this is the case, he does not respect you. However, if you really want to keep this person - fight for them, but don't put yourself down - remember, you obviously have the qualities that attracted him in the first place! Good Luck!
2007-01-31 12:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't happen. Sorry. First, my partner and I are far too committed to eachother to even allow someone else to come in and break us apart by seducing either of us!! BUT if someone attractive was trying to steal my girlfriend, i would simply laugh right in the other womans face and tell her to keep trying all she wants but she'll only get embarrassed in the longrun when my girlfriend DISMISSES her.
2007-01-31 12:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand it, but hopefully your partener is smart enough to see the what the other person is trying to do. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, who's to say that the other person is sexier than you. Explain how you feel a lot of parteners will be flattered at you feel. Just be confident.
2007-01-31 12:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being sudused and someone ATTEMPTING to seduce are TWO different things.
Actually being seduced means she cheated on you...and I don't tolerate that at all.
I demade monogamy from a partner. I don't cheat and I don't put up with cheaters. If you have promised me monogamy, stick to it. If not, move on.
But if someone is just flirting with my partner, then I'm actually flattered because I know I'M the one going home with her and not them!!! Yeah ME!
2007-01-31 12:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never happened but wow, would that have upset her family. It was bad enough for them that Gwen and I were together.
Perhaps I am lucky that I simply cannot imagine how I would feel. There was enough sadness when Gwenneth died.
Rose P.
2007-01-31 20:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I witness the seduction, I gently take the b-t-ch aside & calmly tell her to go bark up another tree cuz my man would only use her for awhile then throw her away cuz after 15yrs with me, he knows I'd take everything in a divorce then all she'd get would be a broken man who needs viagra! (even tho he don't)! Sometimes I just take the ho aside & tell her to watch out for me AND HIM cuz we're both hiv positive! (even tho we're not)!
2007-01-31 12:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by SmallVoiceInBigWorld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kown Im not a woman, but I would talk to yor partner abot how you feel and the situation you see. Try it out
2007-01-31 12:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by memolino2007@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
flirting is okay as long as she knows she's going home to me, but when it gets disrepectful to me, then that's when I have to discipline her.
Here's one for ya...
I married a Miss Right.
I just didn't know her first name was Always.
2007-01-31 12:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋