the story is that I foud out that my gf cheated on me, how I found out?? well I saw an email that she wrote to a guy and I read his response, the where saying how they love each other ..ect...
I told her, and she said that it was nothing and that she didnt write anything, she cried to assured me that it was nothing, and after 2 days of argument I told her that it was ok and to forget about it....but the truth is that I didnt forget about it
I told her that yesterday " listen I dont think you are hosnest with me"and she said "why dont you trust me"...ect...and she cried....now I feel bad for making her cry, should I feel bad about that??
just want to point out that in past 2 months, she had changed alot, she wasnt as romantic as she was with me
2007-01-31 03:41:07 · 19 answers · asked by sergio r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you really have proof, dump her & move on.
2007-01-31 03:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilty? Are you kidding ? I´m so sorry but I think that your girl friend has been cheating you. The woman mind works different as you believe. I think she got her goal and now you are feeling guilty about something that you didn't do.
Just look around you and listen to your heart open your eyes and think a few woman tears can get everything.
I'm sure you will be happy with someone who deserve your heart.
2007-01-31 14:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Monilicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you are saying she defended herself for lying & cheating .And you gave her a pass, Not good on your part . You caught her that hurts her more than anything.
My thought is there are a lot of girls then women out there that are truthful & honest find one> don;t settle for the heart breakers that when caught cry & make you feel guilty. Good luck
2007-01-31 11:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel guilty for making someone you love cry but... you shouldn't feel guilty for being honest with your girlfriend.
If your girlfriend loves you she needs to address your concerns head-on... and not just cry so that you feel guilty. These are real concerns to you and she needs to take care of them or they won't go away.
And... girls will tell you they don't but it is a proven fact, scientifically time-tested, that girls have the super-power to twist arguments so that us guys feel bad for talking about things.
Don't let your girl make you feel bad... YOU CAUGHT HER!!!! TELL HER YOU DON'T TRUST HER BECAUSE YOU CAUGHT HER!!! She needs to convince you that this other guy is not taking your place. If she isn't able to convince you of this then you need to be a man and realize that this other guy is at least as important to your girl as you are.
2007-01-31 11:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by ProudItalians.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guiilty. If she wrote the email and typed her name to it, you found it, she's lying. If she is lying to you about that, she's lied to you before.
Honestly, I would leave her UNLESS you think she is "the one." Even then, thats something you'll have to work through. Girls will cry to get out of things, its called manipulation. We can manipulate a guy inot believing a lie, getting us out of trouble, or getting what we want - all by the shedding of a tear.
Did you print out the e-mail. If you did, show it to her. Talk it out or walk away.
2007-01-31 11:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Chick-a-Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can cry at any time, its the way to get a guy to feel sorry for them, I do it to my husband once in a while as well....i'm sure she wrote the e-mail.....as for trusting, its hard to trust someone, tell her to prove it! Good luck!
P/S....YOU DIDN' MAKE HER CRY, SO DON'T FEEL GUILTY, SHES JUST PUTTING A GUILT TRIP ON YOU!!! KICK HER TO THE CURB THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE OUT THERE FOR YOU THAT WILL TREAT YOU WITH KINDESS & RESPECT, GO & LOOK FOR HER. IF YOUR NOW G/F IS DOING THIS TO YOU NOW JUST THINK HOW MANY MORE TIMES SHE'LL TRY TO PULL ON YOU....THINK ABOUT IT! GET OUT WHILE THE GETTING IS GOOD!
2007-01-31 11:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by kikiboo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel guilty that you're letting yourself get played. If she didn't write the email, who did? Who is this guy? Do you know him?
Tell her you want honest answers right now or you'll walk. You're better than that and you deserve the truth.
2007-01-31 11:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings of mistrust about her even after you two ahve "worked out" the issue then the feelings will only grow greater. Time to decide to move along.
2007-01-31 11:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't cheating on you then what was with the email? Why has she changed? I don't think she's being totally honest with you. You need to break it off with her and find someone who is faithful and you can trust.
2007-01-31 11:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by taco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right, dont feel guilty!. U have a right to be paranoid about that email/msg. Ask her if you can speak to this guy on emails or messenger and pretend to be her. if she says no u cant then u definately know shes done something, dont be afraid and gd luck! x
2007-01-31 11:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by ella_hunni90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's using her sensitivity to make you feel bad about confronting her. she's playing games with you man! she's cheating and straight up lying about it! It's women like her that make it hard for women like me to find a good man ... cuz they think we all play games and that is so not the truth. you need to leave ol' girl alone until she grows up enough to be involved in a real adult relationship! hope you do the right thing!
2007-01-31 11:45:58 · answer #11 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋