I dont love my husband anymore our marriage is over and sex with him is revolting to me, if we do work out our differences how can I find him attractive again, how do you enjoy intimacy with someone who doesnt "turn you on?"
2007-01-31 03:37:45 · 20 answers · asked by Sweetheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems to me, the only option left to you, is DIVORCE! If that is not an option for you, all I can say is, "Fake it, till you make it". Cheating, or having an affair is NOT an option. Masturbation is an alternative solution, but not a very good one.
2007-01-31 03:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, and your marriage is over, why are you still having sex with him? Having sex with someone you find repulsive will only make you resent him more. Only you can decide if your marriage is worth working on. It sounds like there's a lot of water under the bridge.
If you really want your marriage to work, get some counseling. There's a small chance you can get some of those feelings back. Good luck.
2007-01-31 03:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question??You have clearly stated that your marriage is over and you do not love your husband anymore.Why don't you be a real woman and tell your husband how you feel and get divorced.Let him go and move on.He desreves to be with someone that will want him intimately.You cannot force yourself to be attracted to someone.Why stay together just to make eachother miserable.Maybe he find's you repulsive as well.
2007-01-31 03:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember what turned you on in the first place and deal with the issue that is making him "repulsive" (strong word!) to you. This is your HUSBAND! The man who danced with you at your wedding. You SWORE to love, honor and cherish forever. You can't find one attractive thing about him? If you met him at a club or a ball game, you wouldn't be attracted?
My husband and I went through one of these phases and a weekend alone in a hotel room with a jacuzzi worked wonders.
2007-01-31 03:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were your husband and read what you just wrote I would be so hurt I could never sleep with you again.
It is terrible that you have let things get this bad. What have you been doing to address these problems for the last several years? Nothing, I bet. It is easy to blame the other for falling apart when we neglect them for years.
EDIT you neglected to mention that you are carrying on a long-distance affair behind your husband's back.
I know this means I certainly won't get your 10 points, but it is YOU that I find revolting.
2007-01-31 03:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
you need to just pull out now...doesnt sound like there is any chance of anything..do him a favor and you a favor and just file for no fault divorce.I did this with my first wife.At first it was kind of sad but now we are both happy and have two great children that by the way I stayed in the marriage until they were grown but our lives are better for the divorce and life is too short to be miserable
2007-01-31 12:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a hard one to answer. It's times like these where internet sex is absolutely wonderful. You can let your mind drift away and get off at the same time. It's really hard to get h*rny over someone you really can't stand anymore.
2007-01-31 06:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't...I am sort of in the same situation (except I don't think he is revolting LOL...but the intimacy is gone)...it is time for you to get divorced and move on...
2007-01-31 03:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe its your differences that are making him seam repulsive to you. Hopefully when you work these difference out, he will cease to be repulsive.... otherwise, you've get a big problem, the love of your life ought not be repulsive to you.
2007-01-31 05:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find a way if it is possible. You'd be surprised how quickly your view of him can change once your feelings do. If that doesn't work then buy him new clothes or get him a back wax. Whatever it takes.
2007-01-31 03:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋