This is how I feel it's like It doesn't matter how I feel sometimes I'm dating this person because I want them to be happy only. My own feelings are most of the time supressed. I'm pretty sure this is dangerous.
Advice please
2007-01-31 03:36:13 · 5 answers · asked by Myself 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, sounds co-dependent. You with somebody who is very self-centered? Does compromise usually mean you do what she wants?
The problem is if you start to disrespect her and she dumps you, then you've made your whole life about her, and you are going to need time to find yourself afterward.
i did that last year. It sucked.
Have you told her that she might say the right things sometimes, but you have had to sit on your feelings to keep the peace and it's not all about her feelings?
2007-01-31 03:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a 'pleas-er', and you are right...it isn't healthy and it won't last. You can suppress these feelings (or lack of) for only so long and then you will explode in some fashion. You are acting like a robot. You have to stop dating this person, examine yourself and be bold and do something that puts you out of your comfort zone and will get your blood going again. Sit down and make a list of some things that interest you and figure out a way to make it happen. Someone is out there who is waiting to make YOU feel special. Look for her. She is there! Good luck.
2007-01-31 12:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be in a relationship if your feelings are suppressed. This is not good. Try to find someone you can be yourself with and have a free flowing conversation. Not where you can say this, but not that what craziness to have to walk on eggshells on the time. good luck
2007-01-31 11:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you lose yourself to a relationship, then you will be unhappy.
My advice: Tell her that is over and find someone that you can connect in many levels, be yourself and be happy.
Good luck
2007-01-31 11:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your heart isn't in it, which it sounds like it isn't....Break it up and move on. You should be with someone because you want to be, not just to make them happy and yourself miserable. Best Wishes...
2007-01-31 12:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋