Do you think couples who are infertile should consider adoption?

Question

If a couple can't conceive a child naturally, i believe they should adopt instead of going thru infertility drugs or artificial insemination. I don't understand why it's so important to get pregnant when there are so many children waiting for families.

Answer 1

I think more people should adopt. There are so many homeless kids in the world. If a couple can't concieve, for whatever reason, they should be allowed to adopt. I think that even people who can concieve should choose to adopt instead. With how over-populated our planet is, adoption is a necesary measure.

Answer 2

I agree with you and yet I understand, especially a womans need to carry a child. There is a bonding that happens when a women carries a child that a man will never understand. This does not mean that we men will not bond with a child but it is very different. I believe that our society has made it extremely difficult to pursue adoption. In many instances this is rightfully so. In more instances it is a tragedy. So many homeless children who will never know.what family means or even how to love a child having been sheltered from it in orphanges and homes. In some cases our science has allowed us to play God. This may be the reason so many Scientists and Doctors are non believers. I am afraid that science and mans arrogance in our ability to create will and is distroying our earth, and our morality.
May God help us all inspite of the intellegence he has provided us with.

Answer 3

You say 'everything happens for a reason' as if this is a good argument for your opinion on adoption. What makes you say that? Do children in Africa watch their parents beaten and killed in civil war 'for a reason'? Usually there is a reason behind things, but you can't just write these things off to "God's will" because by doing that you remove your own responsibility to have compassion and act on your environment. 'God's will' often includes a lesson for you. I don't know if you are aware just how difficult it is to adopt? Do you know that you have to go on a waiting list for up to 5 years before your application is even accepted? Did you know that adopting from a developed country is so difficult that many people go overseas to adopt? And do you know that if you adopt from a country which has not signed up to the Hague Convention, you could be 'adopting' a child which has been stolen from its natural parents and sold into the adoption trade? So are you really sure the hang up is about 'biological connection'? Or could it be a bit more complicated than that? Could it be that many people just want the life they dreamed of as a child, and it takes them a long time and lots of tears to accept that they will struggle to have their own biological child. The minefield of trying to adopt is not always attractive because of its complexity. Try and consider the difference in terms of stress between: (a) making love to create a baby within the sanctity and safety of your home (b) taking whatever medical intervention will allow you the opportunity to create that baby - at least close to home (c) filling out an application form for a country under the Hague Convention which may or may not be looked at for 5 years and having your chances of having a child reduced to a beaurocratic lottery and dollars. (d) finding a 'legitimate' reason to move to another country which is not under the Hague Convention for one year, trying to find a child which is not stolen (how would you even begin?), then trying to convince your own country to let you back in with the child which will not become a citizen of your country without meeting exactly the right legal, and health, conditions. (e) fostering a child for months or years which you may well (very likely will) have to give back to its parents when the state considers them able to look after it. Please try and broaden your understanding of the emotional complexities of these issues. People don't just 'spend so much money on fertility treatments before considering adoption'. If you think about it you might realise that people actually are in a grief stricken emotional state for a lot of the time, doing whatever they can within the limits of their sanity and finances to come as close as possible to having the joy of a child who looks up at them and says ''mummy" or "daddy". All the time they're researching their options and considering what they are able to cope with depending on the stage they're at. It's a process of elimination, easiest to hardest. Have a heart and take that judgement out of your tone.

Answer 4

Go for it! While I can understand some couples desire to have a child of their own flesh and blood, why spend so much time and money on something that could not work. You are right that there are so many children waiting for parents. I wish you the best!!!

Answer 5

Yes I think so too but some people are just so deparate to have the feeling of birthing a child from there own bodies. I saw a woman on Oprah who doesn't want to believe she can never have a kid. I wanted to go up to her and say hey adoption is just like having your own kid.

Answer 6

To each their own. But, if you read the Bible you'll see that adoption is not only condoned but very much accepted and blessed by God. The Lord very much loves the thought of adopting children that need homes. Check it out.

Note: the Quran is very much against adoption and it is illegal in most muslim countries. That is why we aren't getting war orphans from Iraq like we have during past wars in Europe and Far East Asia.

Answer 7

the thing is, there actually aren't enough kids to go round. most peoples' view of adoption is from tv characters like Monica and Chandler on Friends. but in reality, everyone wants a baby, not a child, and there aren't enough for everyone. the rules are really strict: no gay couples, no single parents, no one over a certain age etc (it varies from country to country). it's very, very hard to be able to adopt a baby.

Answer 8

I agree a hundred percent, esp considering what it must be like to go through child birth! OUCH!!! And the same goes for people who get pets from breeders instead of the animal shelter, existing animals who need a home but they encourage the breeding of yet more animals. Doesn't make sense does it!

Answer 9

as many children are available couple can adopt, but adopting proves infertiltiy in India it is a curse , so try level best to have own baby , if not second option could be adoption.

Answer 10

I agree and this is something I've wondered. Why not just adopt when there is a need for qualified parents.