i have ahuge problem im just 20 yrs old and my bf is 23. yesterday he asked me if i wanted to marry him without anyone findin out. i agrreed ,we even got the wedding bands and we were going to get our marriage license but somehow i felt this sense of guilt because im an only daughter and well i felt sad leaving my mother. i need advice its crazy i mean its not like we r moving out to live by ourselves because if that was the case i would marry him right away.i love him but im just confused...
2007-01-31 03:22:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i want to get married with him but somehow i know my brothers and obviously my parents are going to be dissapointed in me..
2007-01-31 03:30:10 · update #1
don't rush into anything you are not 100% about...although you may think that this is the right thing, remember that you have your whole life to get married. marriage is a big step and shouldn't be taken lightly. did he even ask YOU what you wanted as your wedding? what if you wanted a big wedding with all of your family? don't do something now that you will regret...
good luck! =)
2007-01-31 03:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why rush anyways? And look at it like that even if you got married...why would your parents be dissapointed. They might support you. You never know. How about you begin with introducing him to your family first and maybe few month later you can announce to them that he proposed. It would be better to both of you if you have a blessing from your family and prefferably his too. Why again i will repeat this question again? Why such a rush? You guys can easily postpone it. Or stay engaged for few years see how it goes. Maybe try to live in a pt separatly, just two of you. Trust me dont rush. I know you look like you made up your mind but see how the whole living together thing going first. Just dont rush; its both of you, not just your own good.
2007-01-31 03:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not do this, my question to you is why would you want to marry a person that wants to hide your marriage from your family what is he afraid of? How can you ever expect for your parents to respect or except him into your family after he took you and ran off to do this like a thief in the night! Marriage is sacred you should have everyone that loves you there to give you there blessings stand up and tell him NO! I want to do this right or our marriage would start off badly.
2007-01-31 03:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about having a long engagement, it gives you time to think things through a little better than just running off and getting married. From the question it sounds like you love him but your not ready to make that huge step yet.. just give it a little time and include your mother, most likely you would regret it later in life if you didnt.
2007-01-31 03:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by pirategirl1103 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are far too young to even think about marriage - and to enter into what is supposed to be a life long commitment on a whim "without anyone finding out." What the hell is that about?
Having said that, I can't help but wonder if this is what conservatives in Congress had in mind when they wrote all those "defense of marriage" acts? And we're making it illegal for gay people to marry to protect this kind of "traditional marriage" why? Please, what absolute nonsense.
2007-01-31 03:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by wineboy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you be in such a rush to get married if you're not even going to live together? you're feeling guilty for a reason, and you should take your time with this. marriage is not something to just jump headfirst into.
2007-01-31 03:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that it's too young for you to get married. My friend is only 18, and she's already planned to get married by next June. The thing is; her boyfriend is somewhat abusive. I think you should wait, even though you might know him; if he loves you, he'll wait
2007-01-31 03:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by baby_girlcara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will be divorced with 3 kids and no child support within 5 years.
2007-01-31 03:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's this talk about leaving mom? Ridiculous, just live in the same house as her with your husband!
2007-01-31 03:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be an extremely selfish and immature thing to do to your mom....Why would he want you to do it this way?...What are his motive's?....Your mom has given you the best years of her life....I would hope that you would feel she deserves to be apart of such a special step in your life?....Remember....marriage is suppose to be forever....I hope you don't act impulsively. Good luck.
2007-01-31 03:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋