Me & My best friend are having problems?

Question

me n my bf of 4yrs hav never had problems. Ova the yrs tho Ive noticed things she does to me that I dnt like it always seemed to me that she put her boyfriends be4 me. Like, she'll call and we'll make plans and she'll tell me shes goin to pick me up in 15m. I'll wait and she never comes and I try to be patient. After an hr I'll call to c if she still comin, n find out shes with her boyfriend instead and she didnt even call to say so. She used to do it alot until 1day she left me waiting for hrs and never answered her phone and when I saw her I found out she was with a guy again and stood me up. So I told her about herself.instead of apologizing she just kept saying it must b her personality since she seems to do it all the time, and that I should have stop waiting on her. She told me thats what she would have done. So I let it go. Now i call and make plans n tell her ill call when im ready. but ill get tied up and she gets mad wen she calls and i say i cnt. is this fair

She called and told me I need to change and I feel like I shouldnt have to apologize becuz of the way she reacted when i confronted her about what she used to do. and I feel what she did was worse.

do u think i should ignore it and apologize or tell her about what she did and remind her.

Note: I just hvae done this to her twice. Shes been doing this to me for yrs. I have no problem apologizes. I just feel, Why should i when she didn apologize. She tried to make it seem like i was wrong when i confronted her. I told her that your supposed to call and tell somebody when your not coming not just leave them waiting. she told me i should have just stop waiting.

Answer 1

No, that doesn't seem all that fair. I would have said tell her how you feel but you already did that. Maybe instead of spending all your time waiting on her, when you already know she isn't coming, you should hang out with one of your other friends. If you still feel like she deserves another chance give her one, but if she doesn't show up remember it's her loss.

Answer 2

I think you should stop making plans with her.
Obviously outside interests seem to take precedence over this so called friendship.
Maybe it is time to just let go of this acquaintance until you and she can think and consider each others feelings and respect one another.
You are both dissing each other. This will not work.
When you make plans, you make a committment. You stand by it and if something else comes up too bad.....
If your time together is not exciting or fun, don't hang out....

Answer 3

ok I really dont know the answer the that ?, but is your name Shalyn?