for some kind of odd reason I have this gut that I really want to be my Husband's ex girl-friend friend...and from 3 years ago he did cheated on me with her...but the thing is why do I want to be her friend so bad and compete with her with things she may have or the car she ride ..that I had to get it better then her...but yet I want to be her friend...what the hell is wrong with me??????
2007-01-31 03:17:56 · 13 answers · asked by Cat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are subconciously hung up on the fact that he cheated on you with her. Thus, part of your mind feels you need to compete with her and be better than her. This part of your mind believes in "Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer!"
2007-01-31 03:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have a common bond with her. Your husband. I've been fighting the urge to call my husband's ex-wife just to talk about how he treated her, and find out, from her side, what went wrong with their marriage. I REALLY hope it's not the case between her and me, but people seem to be attracted to the same kind of people. So since your husband has loved the both of you, you probably have a lot in common. My husband married his first wife on the rebound from his one true love, who he pined over for years. His ex-wife and I seem to be totally opposite, but he told me just the other day that his true love from the past and I have a lot in common. Since we haven't been married all that long, and this girl is from 26 years ago, it hurt me pretty bad, to think that he's still on the rebound, and I'm the replacement.
I really think trying to become friends with his ex would be a bad idea. You may HAVE a lot in common. And it could be that you could become the very best of friends. But I'm pretty sure that would put a hefty strain on the marriage. :)
2007-01-31 03:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Angel L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there are opportunities is both techniques, a million- they extremely are purely solid friends and also you ought to believe in ur husband better. 2- she needs to get again ur husband. in spite of everything i think that even after marriage, ur relationship can nonetheless be bestfriend because u adult adult males are tender with one yet another the most and are the nearest to at least one yet another the most and understand one yet another the most. u should be the ladies that he loves and a bestfriend together. yet when i have been you, i ought to sense jealous too. because in case you hate her ideas-set meaning it should be extremely beechy or something for u to sense this kind. that ought to extremely convey worry. and thus, "2" will are available in. yet in case you protest in her transferring in, it ought to reason some conflict between u and ur husband. and that absolutely wont be solid. in spite of everything, i do not imagine that is a gorgeous good idea for her to stay with you adult adult males, yet i should be worry if u protest in this idea. you ought to extremely sit and verify with ur husband. i'm not particular what style of guy ur husband is, if u believe him alot and if he's those variety that isn't cheat on you, then per chance you ought to have some faith in him that no count number how that female flirt which includes your darling, he gained't fall for her again and ought to reject her. playstation , if u extremely gonna sit and verify with ur husband and ur husband tries to nd the verbal substitute quickly, i suggestions u don believe him. because, he ought to probable fall contained in the catergory of those who do not evaluate about their major different's emotions that a lot. He ought to pay interest if he feels and is time-honored with how uneasy ur feeling. If not, i don imagine he can make a stunning good husband. extremely. straightforward.
2016-12-03 06:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I know where you are coming from believe it or not. This did not happen with my husband, but in a previous serious relationship.
And it is a BAD idea. I believe that I did it because I knew that he had seen something in her that he liked, so I wanted to get to know her... yes maybe for competition.
I think that this is just something that women do... maybe not. But the majority of girls that I know do have a hangup with their partner's ex.
If your husband has cheated on you with her already, I think it is a very bad idea to have them together again... bad, bad, bad idea.
2007-01-31 03:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by eaglesnest1119 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you are not this girls friend, you have admitted you try to be better than her at every turn, it is YOUR lack of confidence and trust in your man doing this....you are on a fast road to self destruct... sort your relationship out with your man, decide if you can truely trust him again and get this girl out of your life.... you are not being her friend, you are being evil to her to get revenge
2007-01-31 03:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by merrpet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They always say to keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Maybe it's not so much of wanting to be friends with her, but to be able to stay close by to make sure no more cheating is happening behind your back. Subconcious - gotta love it!!
2007-01-31 03:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There's simply something about the lady that makes you like her. Don't be affraid of your gut instincts, or your female intuition. If you feel that your marriage is safe with this lady around, then it probably is. Relax. Be happy.
2007-01-31 03:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Handy man 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your feelings seem a bit destructive. I wouldn't follow them and instead resist them. It will be better for you, for your marriage, and finally for her.
Be careful.
2007-01-31 03:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Ofcourse... But remember that you have different levels of friends. dont trust her as far as you can see her but you have to take it one day at a time
2007-01-31 03:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by The Answer Guy 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i dont know i think its just dumb to want to be her friend and have her so close to u and ur man
2007-01-31 03:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋