When should a person leave a long term relationship ?

Question

What is unreasonable behaviour ? What would make you say ' i have had enough! Goodbye !' Does it have to be as serious as abuse or cheating even, or can it be down to the person not meeting your emotional needs ?

What is normal for me to expect from the person you are supposed to marry ? For example, respect...You may have guessed it - i dont feel respected.

Please help !

Answer 1

any behaviour thats either physical or emotional abuse would make me leave you deserve better

Answer 2

Well if i was in a relationship where i was seriously in love with a person i would try to work things out if there was something that was bothering me i would let them know it. I mean if you have been with a person long enough then you should be able to talk to the person seriously. If after i discussed the matter with them then they didn't quit anymore i would contimplate whether i wanted to end the relationship due to poor contact and disrespect. On the other hand if they did something such as cheat or abuse me i would definitely leave them on the spot without even thinking about it a second i deserve better and if the guy isn't willing to give me that i can find someone who can. I am very independent and not willing to take any crap from anyone.

Answer 3

Respect is very important. I want to use myself as an example. I dated my current husband for 3 years. One of the years we lived together. As soon as we moved in together we got engaged. I started having reservations about marrying him that year of living together. He just did not help me out around the house and did not show me respect. But, I felt I was just being too picky and there was no perfect person. I thought the had enough good things about him to out weigh the bad. But, it is not going well. We have benn married 1 yr 7 mo and I am miserable. Last year after 6 months of marraige we had to go to counseling. That didn';t work and I have been miserable for another year. If we weren't married I would have ended it before now. I keep trying to make it work just because of being married. So, do not make the step unless you are 100% sure!!!

Answer 4

I suffered;

Emotional and verbal abuse on a daily basis.
He lost interest in me and my interests.
He never wanted to do anything with me, but arranged to stuff with others.
He refused me to take medication prescribed by my doc.
He spent more time on the comp than with me.
He would invest in a future with me.
Daily critism, such as; I dont wan that for tea or the house is a mess.
I suffered verbal abuse from his mother often aswell.

These are just a few and are the ones that played a factor in the divorce, which has been granted.

Answer 5

You should get out when you feel that the relationship is no longer going anywhere..

If you're not meeting each other's needs and your relationship is making you unhappy rather than happy, it's time to leave.

I was married for 25 years.. it was no longer working.. hadn't been for some time.. but you stay and try to work things out.. after a while it's like 'flogging a dead horse'. That's the time to go.

Good luck..

Answer 6

If you don't feel your future husband is capable of creating a loving and respectful relationship,the time to quit is now.A marriage is when two people give to each other the following:...Love, Respect, Dependability in all situations, A bright future and security for you and your future children....Throw in a good sense of humor,and you will have a great husband....Remember it's easier to break up now than after your married.

Answer 7

For a relationship to work you need a few things including trust, respect and love. Without just one of these you should be talking to your partner and finding out why this aspect is missing and what if anything can be done about it. Remember that your partner is not psychic you need to tell them how you feel! If nothing can be done or nothing is done then it is time to say enough is enough and leave.

Answer 8

If you dont feel respected, that is MORE THAN ENOUGH reason to go and get on with your life as fast as your little two feet can carry you. Any one can be liked, ANYONE. But respect, that is different. I would 100xs and over prefer to be respected than liked. Being Liked doesnt do anything for you in love, life, career, its useless. If he/she dont respect you, then be prepared to be dogg on, cheated on, dumped on.

Leave whilst you can, it aint going anywhere. He/she will respect you for leaving them and staying away and not EVER coming back, so its a bit sad really, cause you will never get thier respect and still be talking if you have already put up with certain sh1t already. Just go, dont look back and dont EVER regret your decsion. TRust me.

Answer 9

You need to really think about this one before you make a move. Is it your partner that is making you unhappy in the relationship, or is it your own demons? Once they are gone, they are gone. Can you really imagine your life without them? Once the finality is there, it is alot harder than you think. I know still having them there, you can think like this, but it is alot different when its over and done. You think about all the things you wish you could change and all that. If you dont feel respected, ask yourself, do I respect myself? It could be the disrespect you have for yourself making you feel like this, and not your partner.

Think about it hun, I promise, this **** is really hard.

Answer 10

If you don't feel comfortable and "yourself" around this person... chances are they aren't treating you right. You will know . It doesn't have to be any form of abuse... just not having that love feeling. I would suggest seeing a counsellor to sort out feelings. Maybe the two of you need to sit down and talk about your feelings.

I wish you luck!

Answer 11

Having the same thoughts right now! I guess only we will know when the time is right to go if we do! If I was financially secure I'd have probably gone long ago or maybe that would make it easier and the relationship better? Who knows only you can decide!