I have been in a sexual relationship with someone during the last 5 months. yes we are 16 years apart from each other, but thats okEverything was great, we had lots of fun and no one was getting hurt (i knew that we would never actually become "something" so i kept myself from having feelings for him) Don't get me wrong, i do care for him, and miss him but im now in a mess!At the beginning of the year i learned that he had been seeing someone since July & they were actually serious and together , she is only 1 yr older than me!He said that he never told me in the beginning because he didnt know what was going on between us, but he made the ground rules so i know thats bullshit!She doesn't know about it, & i don't think I will tell her(i know her but not close to her at all) but he still wants to have sex with me & i don't mind it, but should i just leave him alone, or should we continue?I have had the most fun in my life with this man and don't want the fun to stop! what should i do?
2007-01-31 02:46:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
This guy sounds like a scumbag who is taking advantage of your comparative youth and inexperience to manipulate you. You should not stay. I really doubt you and the gf are the only women he's got on the string... if he concealed a "serious" relationship from you there's nothing to show that he's not hiding one-night stands or exes in the closet somewhere. Of course he still wants to have sex with you. You are a much younger woman who is okay with adultery and isn't asking him for a commitment.
Break it off, get an STD screen, and find a fun guy who is honest with you.
2007-01-31 03:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by MissA 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they do no longer seem to be waiting to chat approximately engagements, you're being a stable chum for pointing that out. this guy is obviously on the rebound from his ex-spouse ... she might desire to be careful or she would be able to get harm. on the different hand she's an grownup and that is her existence. so be respectful and don't be like "you're making a large mistake .. he's purely too previous" etc ... yet somewhat advise her to "take it slow" with this guy and to no longer rush into something. the clock is ticking for him .. yet that does no longer propose that is ticking for her. if he's no longer prepared to decelerate then she needs to bypass on. she instruments the regulations, remind her of that. purely curious, yet are you able to share with us how they initially met??
2016-12-16 17:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are conflicted by this makes me believe that you are having a moral issue here... You would want to know if the guy you were sleeping with had multiple partners... and this other girl is completely in the dark here... just think--- what if the roles were reversed... you and the other woman. What would you do if you were in her position? If you are conflicted, then stop the relationship... you may find yourself being the 'other woman' if she thinks they are exclusive and doesn't know about you. I'd totally want to know if the guy I was with was sleeping with others...
I know easier said than done... Good luck with this decision!
2007-01-31 03:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by brookeems 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's in a COMMITTED relationship with this other person, I think you have two obligations.
One, stop having sex with him. If he's committed to this other person, he's CHEATING on her.
Two, tell this other person. If she thinks they're exclusive, he's duping her and screwing around on her. Think about how you'd feel if the roles were reversed.
And how many OTHER people besides you two is he screwing? How often does he use protection? You're leaving yourself open for all sorts of grunge.
This guy is filth.
2007-01-31 03:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋