i babysit for my aunt and uncle, and i have for the last 6 months, I told then i would months before she was even born...i told them i would until she was two but if i knew how boring....or how lonely it was going to make me i never would have, in early jan. my aunt mentioned something about if i didnt want to then in june there was someone that could but i am scared to tell her i didnt want to or to let her down so i just said right now i am planning to keep babysitting her but inside i want to tell then i dotn want to anymore, plus my husband and i fight about it bc he doesnt think its a real job and i should be contributing more financially which i also agree with the financial aspect, but i just dont want to back out of babysitting whenever i told them i would before, i hate telling people no! and i dont know how, one reason i agreed to bbysit was bc i am taking online classes but i am bored with that and i just want to work but everyone will be let down if i quit school?!?
2007-01-31 02:29:25 · 21 answers · asked by sally 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
should i just stick out the baby sitting another year and a half even if i hate it?
2007-01-31 02:30:02 · update #1
thank you i will keep babysitting until june bc thats when there is supposed to be an opening but if there isnt then i will try to stick it out...im not going to quit school though either! i am still so nervous about telling my aunt bc i do feel like i am letting them down, plus my aunt gets really stressed and over reacts about everything
2007-01-31 02:45:31 · update #2
You should be honest with them. If it makes you unhappy then chances are you won't do the best job you know how and that is no good when it comes to an infant. You should however stick it out until they find a replacement. As far as quitting school, well, that's really for you to decide. As far as letting people down, the truth is you are going to. If not this time then eventually. You cannot live you're life trying to please others. It will make you miserable. trust me i know this because I lived it. When someone asked me to do something for them, I usually said yes. Later I found out that I didn't want to do it, all I really wanted was to please them and make them happy. that really didn't make me happy at all. When someone asks me something now, I say to them that I have to think about it first. if the answer is no and they get mad, then that is there problem and they need to work on themselves. good luck to you.
2007-01-31 02:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by missin NJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... you're married, so that means you're a big girl and you can handle this answer! ;0) You need to be honest with your aunt. The honesty here is that you are not making enough money by babysitting. You also are not enjoying being with the kids all the time as their babysitter. You, I'm sure love her, but would rather visit your little cousin during times you can have fun, and not be tied down to being the caregiver during the days. Your husband is not being supportive of the babysitting, and that is making everything harder as well. I don't care if she's your aunt, or just some woman you know that you babysit for... this is the honesty and you need to tell her what's going on with you. As a mom, she should appreciate this honesty and let you off the hook here. (I've done it before myself with people I babysat for, and we're still friends... I'm sure if it was family, we'd also still be family!) Let her know that you would like it very much if she could find someone else to babysit for her, but that you will continue to watch the little one until she does find someone else. Tell her that it would be best if she could find somone before June. Offer to help her find a responsible friend to maybe fill in between now and then. And DO IT if she would like to take you up on that offer. Agreeing with others... if you're not enjoying babysitting, then the little one probably isn't enjoying YOU babysitting her either! Not something that's done on purpose, just that those feelings do get passed on and felt... no matter how hard you try not to let them! As for school... if you're taking online classes, then find a way to work around doing that and working a regular part time job somewhere. Coming from a 30 year old with great grades in high school... YOU will be disappointed down the road if you do not further your education. If you start working full time, move on to having kids of your own, and someday want to get a job that you ENJOY and one that makes some decent money... you will find it very hard to get back to school! Don't worry about letting everyone else down... think about the future and what you MIGHT want from it. Money is great, but so is enjoying your life while making it... for that, an education is really important! Don't let your 30 year old self down now by quitting school... find a way to make school and work WORK for you! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-31 02:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by cjsmom0821 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a nanny for two boys (a 3 year old & a 6 month old). I would take them to the library (there are speical classes for all ages) to the mall and to different parks. The kids love it and it will make your day a lot better. But if youdo this and still don't like babysitting do everyone a favor and tell your aunt the truth. She will be happy to get someone who really want to watch and take care of her baby. Even if she does get alittle stressed it is better to tell her when she has someone else in mind than to tell her after she has toled the other person no.
2007-01-31 03:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quiting from the coarse would be a big mistake.
If you dont like to babysit then you should tell your aunt that you wish to do so and give her enough time to find a new baby sitter. Rather getting fed up to your limit one day and quit without any notice.By doing so you are not doing anything wrong. Its a real world and you might have to be a bit selfish sometimes. I was like you and still find it difficult but thats how you have to be.
2007-01-31 02:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by sabse-sundar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If your worried about your aunts feelings, go to her and explain why.
Tell her that you love babysitting for her, and will miss it immensely, but, you and your husband sat down and figured out your bills, and right now you need to get a fulltime job. She does not need to know specifics. If she asks tell her that your not feeling like your pulling you weight and the two of you aren't happy with the arrangement between yourselves.
If you don't want to go that route then I suggest , telling your aunt that you love your neice, but, would love to take on more of a spoiling cousin type role in her life instead of care taker, and you feel that being both just isn't as fun as you would like.
2007-01-31 02:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're able to take classes then keep on!! I know it really sucks right now...you're bored and lonely. Totally understandable! I'm in the opposite position...I'm pregnant and working because I can't stop (I'm supporting my husband while he's getting his PhD)...even though I wish I could take classes for grad school. If you're able to keep working on your education DO IT! It will end up being for the best. Unfortuantely it is boring but working in the "real world" is just as bad...I literally cry everyday (often in my cubicle) because I hate my job so much.
Trust me, the more education you get the better off you will be! Stick it out for another 2 years and finish those classes!
Good luck!
2007-01-31 02:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so frustrated that it hurts to read your question.Take it from someone that has being doing things just for the sake of others...at the end...you are the only one who wakes up and goes to sleep miserable!.You have one life and one shoot at it to be happy with your own decisions.Life has its ups and downs yes, and making others happy is a great thing, but not at your own happiness expense.
You have to do what makes YOU tick. You have to get up in the morning and be complete with what you are doing and why you are doing it.Living life with that miserable feeling can make you depress and there is no use for you like that.Depression hurts. And not only hurts you. Make a move for YOU.Do something that will push you out of bed every morning wanting to do it.If you are happy, everybody else around you will be as well.Try to look at the half glass full...not the half glass empty.
People do change in life. And you had no way of knowing you will hate to babysit! you tried it, you did your best! but is time to move on for you. Now one will be mad at you, they will adjust. But if you stick with it just for them...you will be mad at your own self down the road when you see how much time you lost from your own life.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 02:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of yourself, what will be right for you and your family. I believe that if your heart is not in the babysitting gig anymore be honest to your aunt and uncle and let them know. Because you don't want to let too much time pass by and the baby develope a bond with you and it will make it harder for the next sitter.
2007-01-31 02:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them that you and your husband have been talking and you need to contribute more financially. Tell them, you are going to begin looking for a differnt job, but will keep babysitting until you find one. But they may need to help you out if you have an interview during babysitting hours.
2007-01-31 02:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quitting school is a BIG noooooooooooooooooooooo
about baby sitting, well your aunt and uncle can manage with another babysitter, so girl why to push yourself in something you hate and cause your self troubles with your husband, and you van have the easiest solution ever, tell them the truth and am sure they can manage
Good luck
2007-01-31 02:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by balbossa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋