Since he was about 10 months old and up until last month, he'd been sleeping in his own bed and in his own room through the night without any problems. Recently, it's just been a nightmare. He gets up almost every hour crying and screaming for us to hold him until he falls asleep. I've tried moving him into our room and into our bed, but it hasn't solved the problem. He still wants to be cuddled to sleep. He's perfectly fine - it's not what we feed him, not teething, not illness, not a growth spurt...We just can't figure it out! We need our sleep! Advice anyone?
2007-01-31 02:10:08 · 2 answers · asked by lb2k 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i think alot of kids go through these stages... and to be honest i would never start the thing of having my child in my bed, alot of these difficulties come from attention and boy is he getting alot of it from you for this behaviour!
make sure you have a relaxing bedtime routine set up, a soothing bath, drink of milk and quiet time with a story, then put him in his own bed, say goodnight to him and leave the room... he will prolly scream and cry and be up and down for hours the first week or so so be prepared for this... when he gets out of his bed, take him back to his bed, do not speak, do not make eye contact, do not cuddle or fuss him, there is nohing wrong like you said and you are not being a bad parent by doing this.. it is called "rapid return.. be prepared at the outset to do this ALOT of times, (one night with my son it was 35times!!) do this EVERY time he gets out of his bed, if he stays in his bed but cries, scream etc, ignore him (unless you know he has hurt himself obviously) he will soon realise that this behaviour is NOT acceptable and within about 2 weeks you will all be getting a good nights sleep in your own beds!!!
also a god idea is to have a sticker chart if he is old enough to understand how it works, he gets a sticker for spending the WHOLE night inhis own bed and a big cross if he dosnt... once he "earns" 3 stickers in one week he gets a treat (something small if you chose a toy or sweets, or a trip to the park, something he enjoys anyway!) once he has hit the 3 sticker target 3 times up the anti to four stickers in one week... and so on and so forth
good luck xx
2007-01-31 02:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by merrpet 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a 15 month old that is doing almost the same thing, but she is teething and that is why. Your husband is very right! Do not put your son in the bed with you. He will get used to it and will want to do that ALL the time. Bad habit to get into. It could be separation anxiety, and that he's just simply scared in there by himself. The bottom line is letting him cry it out is what you are suppose to do. Going in there over and over is only going to keep him IN that routine and he's going to keep expecting you to come in there for him. So some parents just DONT go in at all and the child becomes used to that fact that mommy or daddy will not be coming in... Also you could do this one method I read about online. Child starts screaming, go in dont say anything to them, if they are sitting up, lay them back down and cover them up, Walk out. See what happens, if they wake up again, wait 8 mins go back in do the same thing. Leave they wake up again , wait 12 mins. Go longer each time. This can be a long process, but it has worked for 2 of my children. Took about 1-2 weeks with both. It just works them up to the point that IT IS time to sleep, and not time to spend with mommy and daddy. Hope this helps!
2016-05-23 22:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-25 08:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby might be starting to suffer from night terrors. My little nephew did - but his brother didn't. Some kids just have it.
I lived with their family for 6 months, and just about every night, we were woken by terrified screaming. His mom or dad used to just get in bed with him and hold him until he fell back asleep. They didn't usually leave because they were asleep too.
I guess that's what families are all about - just being there for eachother.
2007-01-31 02:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋