A question for the women:?

Question

How do you tell if a man is insecure? Or, if you want to be positive, how can you tell if a man is confident? And I make the assumption that women are unattracted to insecure men and confident men attract women, right?

Answer 1

I am attracted to a secure, dominant man. I can tell by the way they carry themselves, handle themselves, the way they talk, the way they treat woman. A real man will treat a lady like a lady and not be afraid that todays society will condemn him for opening a car door for her or holding her chair for her. He is confident and secure and will stand up for his lady if need be, but will also let her speak her mind as well recognizing that she is not a doormat, that she has opinions and thoughts.

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Answer 2

There is nothing worse than a unconfident man. Women seek for the protection and the strenght on a man to couple up, just like in nature. So is essensial for a man to project virility. confidence and strenght.

A friend of mine, he was average+ looking, had a great job and was single. He constantly complained about being single and he was so clingy/needy that it was an instant woman repellent.

He was ALWAYS complaining about his life, how unfair life was, how unatractive he was, how lonely he was, how bad day was, constantly asking if that or this was ok, always asking somebody else's approval. Not even as a friend I could stand him. I stopped talking to him beacuse he brough me down and I don't need a man-child for a friend.

He always called and email and text message constantly and if you didn't reply right away he will email again and again asking if you read the previous email! wow! talking about needy and clingy! He was also tight with money even though he had plenty and I found that so untractive and cheap.

I tell when a man is confident when he can approach a woman without the pity-me card. A man is confident because when he takes care of himself and keeps himself neatly groomed. A man is confident when he doesn't act desperate when you don't call back right away and when he can hold interesting conversations. A man is confident when he doesn't feel treaten by the company of other friends. A confident men is respecful and always have something positive to say about himself and others without being coky or arrogant. A confident man doesn't seek self-worth in their relationships and doesn't need approval and reassurance all the time.

Good luck

Answer 3

Like most humans; an insecure man can show the signs by just about any action, inaction, speech, lack thereof, etc.

All persons have some sort of insecurities; anyone that doesn't isn't human.

An insecure man isn't always one to discount. It depends on his insecurities and if they interfere with his ability to enjoy and live life. He can be insecure about his appearance; get embarrassed if a female finds him attractive. To what degree the insecurities affect him and how is a different matter. If he feels he is hideously unattractive and it makes him bitter or angry then his personality would reflect that and prove to be an obstacle to those around him.

A confident man can also appear cocky and self-centered, not exactly traits that "normal" (whatever that really is) women seek out because too much of it can lead to the male being so self-centered or arrogant that he never considers anyone outside himself when acting.

The only real way to know if a person is too insecure or too confident is to spend time with them, observe them in various situations and see if the way the handle themselves is acceptable to you as a person; if your values equal out then there is neither too much or too little of either trait.

Answer 4

I think insecurity is a problem rather it is male/female. The problem lies with the jealousy factor. Usually someone that is insecure will have an issue of mistrust, and a jealous factor that will lead to alot of issues for the other parenter. A man who is confident but humble is a good one to have. He must be able to set aside pride, be a strong person with strong values. If a man is confident he will usually be well grounded in his work, but also be able to take time for his family. He will follow his values and be good in many areas of his life. Not perfect just well -rounded. Insecurities can be caused by shyness as well. So the insecurity person could be a good mate, but if it proves to be a jealous and mistrust issue, then it will never work. Goodluck

Answer 5

You can tell by getting to know him and over time you will see how he responds and reats to things.... I think you may be right in your assumption here but it may not always be the case though... I have seen to insecure people together and it is a disaster usually because they are both co-dependant people.. I feel that like you said that the opposites attract and that they offset each other and can stable each other out... If you have to secure people them mihg butt heads too as they both would think they were always right and argue and fight alot over it... Great question by the way:) This one makes me think.

Answer 6

I find that yes, insecure men are not attractive, not to me anyway. I can tell one by the way he talks. He won't be asking me if "it was good", if "I liked it". He'll know without asking.

A confident man won't have to ask me how I feel about things all the time. We may talk about feelings, about emotions but he won't need constant affirmation, validation. He will get what he needs from his own life and not from my constant admiration and compliments. He won't need me to call him all the time. He wont "need" me period. He will, however, want me, and he won't be afraid to say so.

The man who is confident and secure will be able to make decisions about his life and trust them. He will also be able to control himself. And, being somewhat submissive, I will be able to trust him with control over me now and then. If I allow him to make decisions concerning me, I know he will make them with my best interests in mind. He will be able to do so without question, without hesitation and without regret.

I feel safe in the arms of a confident man. I know that he will make sure that I make it home all right, that I am never put in a risky situation, and that I never have to worry about anything when I am in his company. He knows, and lets me know, that he can care for and take care of me.

Answer 7

HEHEHEHE!!!! HAHAHAHA!!!!

All men are insecure and they fight - Scream and Yell to Prove that they aren't......It's all a falsehood. Women fall in love with the lie and the truth is shown after marriage.....Just fess up we already know.....Men are attracted to Confident women and then call them B's because men are Jealous.

Answer 8

It is hard for me to tell and insecure man froma secure one until I date him, then certain things will come out like he might become overly possesive, that screams insecurity.

Answer 9

Too many generalizations. No one is 100% either way.