2007-01-31 01:59:14 · 34 answers · asked by debra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you so sure he doesn't take good care of him. Are you that sure that if his child is sick he wont care properly for the child....
Perhaps his methods are different than yours. That doesn't mean he doesn't take good care of him. Is he neglectful, or do you just not agree with his methods...
There are many variables here.
Let the dad know the child is sick and he will need to take extra care of his child this week.
If he doesn't, when the child comes back, you'll have more ammunition in court to get more custody and would be rightfully so.
If he does, perhaps you underestimated him.
The child deserves their father as much as their mother unless there are extenuating circumstances.
2007-01-31 02:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you already know he doesn't take good care of your child
when they "aren't" sick, I surely wouldn't turn him over to his Dad when he "is" sick. I think the reason you have a question in your mind about this, is because you want to be fair about things, and you really "wish" he were a good Dad. Take it from me, wishing isn't going to make that happen. I went against my better judgement when my daughter was younger, and I allowed her to spend the weekend with her Dad. Well, he put her on the back of his motorcycle while he was intoxicated, and proceeded to take her for a ride. If my daughter hadn't jumped off the bike, she would have gotten hurt or died 20 minutes later when he got into a horrible crash! My point is, if your instincts say NO, then make it NO! I personally listen to my instinct now, even if I end up being wrong. It's up to you.....Mom.
2007-01-31 02:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! i think you should keep your child home and look after him/her. Call your ex explain the situation to him and tell him your child is sick and be if your child stays in their comfort. See the doctor and get a certificate from the doctor so your ex has nothing to come back on you with the law if it is his turn to have his child. Also depends on the child's age.
2007-01-31 02:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. It would depend how sick the child is. If it's a cough and runny nose...yes. If it's a whole body flu...that's really not going to be quality time spent at dad's house and put undue pressure on the child while he'll ill. It would really depend on how sick the child is in my opinon.
2007-01-31 02:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know he child is sick and needs to stay home. Then offer the Dad time ti come visit, but do not let him take him. No court would ever fault you for keeping your child when he/she is sick.
2007-01-31 02:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by Krista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. What does the Dad think about it. I would make the request that he stay home because he is sick. But if Dad disagrees there is not much you can do. Send very clear written instructions of his care and hope for the best.
2007-01-31 02:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by TD R 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the dad in advance that he won't be able to go with him because he is sick, and is will be getting nursed back to health. If he really wants to see him, he should be able to come by and visit, but I wouldn't turn him over to him. Good luck with this situation, and I hope there is no drama.
2007-01-31 02:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,If the child is ill it,s not a good idea for him to go out,Tell his dad that he is sick and that you will let him know when he is feeling better..
2007-01-31 02:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is sick he shouldn't be going anywhere. Explain to your ex that the child is sick and you need to keep an eye on him and he shouldn't be going anywhere. Try making another time to make up for it. Good Luck
2007-01-31 02:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I just went through that with my daughter and found she
upper respiratory infection, my mother instinct kick in and
i just knew to keep my daughter home, it your job as the mother
to be there for your child even if it is the father weekend
you gonna have to let him miss one weekend and talk
to him and see if he can come during the week and still
spend time with the child even if it,s only 20 minutes.
2007-01-31 02:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋