My wife has a dominating personality just like yours. She always likes the feeling of control and she’s always complaining about this or that (I think it’s her way to feel comfortable in the relationship. The more control and dominating she feels the better off she is). One problem this doesn’t work all the time with me. I have to say that I give in a lot because I know this is how she is but every once in awhile I throw her a curve ball and take over and it drives her nuts. Like for instance, last night she just kept complaining about how I do this or that and it bugs her so this morning I said I tell you what, why don’t you give me your wedding rings and be unmarried today and find someone that you don’t complain about so much and when you’re proud to where these again, you can have them back. Boy did she get mad that she lost control and threatened this and that but I took charge and I do that every once in awhile. Now she’s angrier than a hornet getting shook up in a jar. So all you dominating women out there if your husband did things like this to get you to listen to him, would you respect him after he stood up to you even though you hate losing that control? It seems that after she calms down, she loves me more.
2007-01-31 01:41:52 · 9 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to stand up to her more often, she domineers out of a lack of respect for you, when you stand up to her she respects you more as she see's you as man again not a doormat... try doing it more often see how it goes, yes she will get mad, but the more you do it the more you will realise that you do not have to be a walk over, you have a right to the things you want to make you happy too!
2007-01-31 01:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by merrpet 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes, I am the same way your wife is, and I love being in control, but every once in a while, when my man does something like that it drives me crazy, but at the same time it makes me feel good, because even though we love being in control, sometimes feeling weaker than your man and not so much in control of everything around is a great feeling, I realize at that point that I have a true man next to me and that he loves me and just gives me lots of slack but he is the stronger half!
2007-01-31 02:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in my situation its different. my husband developed bipolar and just lost interest in everything, so i had to take over.
its hard to have to be the one to make all the decisions (sometimes right and sometimes wrong)
why don't you and your wife reach a compromise on what exactly you want to do.
you need to communicate more and decide on things together.
you don't know how many times that i wish my husband was stable enough to help me decide (rationally) on an answer to problems.
(unfortunately, he thinks i should just kill everyone but the immediate family, somehow i don't see that happening)
so please communicate work things out and be appreciative of the relationship that you have.
2007-01-31 02:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she will respect, and sometimes think twice about "b!tching" (being in control)...I used to be that woman, and every once in a while i can be that woman. What you are doing is absolutely correct. I was once told, you can ***** all you want, but when there is no one to ***** to, then what? I believe that every woman should be able to *****, but every man has to be a man, and we as women have to let them be men. I am still married to husband, he is alot like you, he puts up with it, until he has had enough then i am put into my place. Good for you, cause sometimes we do nag for no reason, and take things out on our men because we know he will put up with it. Women need to be in control sometimes, but there are times when men dont have to put up with it....it is what it is!!!
2007-01-31 02:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Who Dat Chic!! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 10 yrs..promised a ring once things financially got better.....never got it.....2 kids, the fighting and arguing..... he did that on purpose not getting me the ring to control me in a way. I would say stand up to her but the taking of the ring>>ummm i dunno..i guess i am biased about that.
2007-01-31 02:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by new life abundant 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Fortunately for you, she loves you, and is not a stubborn woman. In fact, she's probably pushing you to the point of taking control. Since your system seems to work for you, why not take responsibility sooner, and more often? :)
2007-01-31 02:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol, this is cute. Your woman doesn't have the control, you let her think she does, till she gets out of hand then you stand up. You are a good man.
2007-01-31 01:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHE RESPECTS YOU MORE, EVEN THOUGH ME MAY BE STRONGER IN THE PERSONALTY DEPT, WE DON'T WANT A WEAK MAN. WE WANT ONE THAT UNDERSTANDS US. JUST LET HER BE MAD FOR AWHILE AND TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND GIVE HUGS. WE ARE FUNNY AREN'T WE! BUT YA GOTTA LOVE US!
2007-01-31 02:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude do you ever need to GROW a set of BA**S. What are you thinking. Be a MAN.
2007-01-31 02:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋