2007-01-31 01:40:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm answering this from both viewpoints if that's okay.
mostly, its just nice to have somebody to talk "at" as I'm organizing my thoughts; simple nods or nays are good though.
I losed a girlfriend once cause I was more interested in solving her problems for her than just listening to her.
besides, people need to solve their own problems; listening though provides both the moral support and allows them to voice their thoughts -- they sound differernt out loud. Occasional input is good cause it may have insight; but your input/oppinion shouldn't be the solution?
2007-01-31 02:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Howard K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both...I don't usually talk about my personal problems, but if I simply want feedback or a second opinion I will ask for just that. I only have a couple of really good friends I will share things with, and they seem to know exactly when to offer their opinion and when to just listen.
2007-01-31 02:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by MissDiva1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife hates when I gove her advice on a problem she has - after listening to it.
But thats just my wife, because she is sleeping in the same bed as I do. So everytime I give advice, it sounds like I am telling her she it stupid, and I am a smart guy telling her how the world runs.
So yes, it depends on the relationship between the persons.
If the grandfather gives and advice, its different, right ?
YOu think, how wise that old guy is, or you think, omg, that was like 100 ago, now the world change totally, we have mobil phones today.
2007-01-31 01:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t tell anyone my problems, because I liek to keep them to myself, and I am a private person. Those who "know" about my problems never say anything and I am comfortable with. As far as advice goes, I think that I would rather learn it the hard way than have someone tell me anything, no matter how painful the experience because it builds courage and stamina in a person.
2007-01-31 01:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes one and sometimes the other and then sometimes both. There are times when I just need someone to talk and vent to. There are times when I need advice. And then there are times when I want to talk about the situation and then hear feedback/advice. May God Bless U.
2007-01-31 02:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. usually if you have a prob. and need to talk to a friend they will give advise to try and help. I would want help or some kind of advice that maybe i haven't thought of yet.
2007-01-31 01:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by whijess03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want them to listen then give me feedback. its always good to hear someone else spin on something.
2007-01-31 01:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by LENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually if i'm bothering to tell somebody my business i want advice. if not i usually just keep it to myself.
2007-01-31 01:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Annie Rod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen and then tell me their thinking without
pressuring me on what i should do.
2007-01-31 01:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they talk more than you talk,they just want you to listen.
BUT
if they ask things like "what do you think?" then they want your opinion
2007-01-31 02:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by bittersweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋