does your relationship you have with your dad pick and choose the men you are with in your personal life?

Question

my dad was verbal abusive and always negative person when i was a child. he also had addictive personality and he was addicted to drugs and acholic. He still is a heavier drinker and he is always wants someone to throw him a pity party. we havent talked in a year and im good with that. i have no feelings toward him at all. do u think my problems with my dad effect my relationships with men

Answer 1

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Answer 2

It's a shame, but I think ALL of our relationships with our fathers effects how we interact with men. There are so many different factors. It sounds as though you would never be attracted to anyone like your dad, and since he has all those problems, you are on the right path. Someday you need to allow yourself the room to forgive him, but you don't have to beg him for forgiveness or even forgive him before he has passed away. Death is a certainty but it need not hold us in bondage. You will need to forgive for your own survival. I carried a load of unforgiveness on my back for someone and it was just too heavy.
It didn't change them after I forgave them but it gave me relief and
I finally felt free. Doesn't mean I have to trust them or forget what they did. Survival is key. But I understand and I forgive them because they were hurting themselves and that is sad. Good Luck!! @8-)

Answer 3

It's a well known fact that your relationships with men will be affected by your relationship with your own father. If he didn't show you the Godly love and affirmation that you need from him as a daughter, then you are probably starved for it. Be cautious! You may seek to find the love your father never gave you from the first guy who comes along offering it. But he will disappoint you.

The only One who can truly give you that kind of love that you so long for is your Heavenly Father. He is the perfect, loving, caring, kind, holy, righteous Father that will give you the love you desperately need. For more info. check out www.notreligion.com.

Answer 4

I don't believe so. I know lots of people who grew up with no dad and still had a good relationship with a man. Same for people I know who had decent dads and wound up with losers. Once you become an adult you make choices in your life, if you chose to be with a loser or have a crappy life then you can't blame it on how you were raised or on having crappy parents.

Answer 5

yes,

You may look at men in the same way you see your dad, but he is your father and dont give up on him, deep down inm sure he loves you. Find a good man that will treat you right and be committed to you and not into drugs or alcohol.

Answer 6

Definatly NOT
What your dad was not right and you not like your Dad and it doesn't affect your relationship.Your Dad didnt respect you and love you.Im sure a loving,caring and great person.