If you have an argument with your significant other. I mean, a full blowout: name calling, yelling, etc. If one person storms out the house (in the middle of the argument) and is gone for upwards of 6 - 8 hours, but the other person stayed at the house, Should...
1. the person who stayed behind at the house call the other person after about 3 or 4 hours and tell them to come home
2. the person who left, call the house after 3 or 4 hours and tell the other person either they are coming home or they are not coming home. (they just want to stay out of the house for awhile longer maybe they are still mad, it doesn't really matter)
Now, the thing to keep in mind, the argument was about nothing, it was completly pointless. I have took the side that the person who left should be the one that calls first. Not necessarily to apologize but just to say that they are okay.
2007-01-31 01:27:21 · 9 answers · asked by Army Gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think either person should need to leave for that long to blow off steam. I would understand 30 minutes or an hour maybe but that seems a bit extreme to me and I would have to wonder what they did for 6-8 hours. Someone should be the first to call and I think it should be the one who stormed out. A call just to let the other person know they are safe. A better way to handle it would be to come back and talk it out. Better to face problems head on.
2007-01-31 02:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who left needed space and to cool off, you should respect that and yes the right thing to do would be call and let the other person know if they are ok and returning....however if the person is still really mad and not calmed down they wouldn't do that would they?
The arguement may have been about nothing to you, but it must have been about something to the other person or they wouldn't have been gone so long.
Remember this, when you are mad sometimes what you say in anger really hurts weather you mean it or not and men more then women don't forget, the get hurt much easier.
2007-01-31 01:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the argument was pointless, and both got into it heated or not, they both have their part in it and really should take the steps to apologize for their part in it. The person that left the house should call, it isn't fair to the person at home. They should let them know they are OK. But you know I have seen this situation many times, and it will come down to the less stubborn of the two! Goodluck!
2007-01-31 01:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all try not to name-call during an argument. Yes, I know how tempting it can be, but it does not make the situation any better. Whenever my boyfriend and I really aruge, it's not uncommon for one of us to have to step outside and cool off; sometimes it's a good idea to back off, but it is not okay to disappear for hours on end without notifying the other person. You might try these strategies next time and hopefully you can avoid this mess in the future.
And to answer your question, a relationship is two people; therefore, it is the responsibility of both parties to check in with the other person.
2007-01-31 01:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things....
1. Improve your arguing techniques. When you are getting along, put together an agreement about what you will do in the heat of an argument. If leaving is one of the things- set peramemters, time limits, etc...
2. Get to the bottom of why you had the argument. Pointeless arguments are not usually pointless. What's really going on?
2007-01-31 01:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by artichoke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love one another, why can't both of you talk it out instead of yelling and name calling etc...?
Does it really matter who calls who first as long as someone does? I mean if you're in a relationship with someone you love, why would you scream, and yell, and call them names? Even if the other starts in first, shouldn't one of you be the better person and try to diffuse the situation instead of adding more fuel to the fire?
Just my opinion here, but if you have arguments that end up like this, especially over nothing, you may want to re-think being in this relationship. Because if arguments over "nothing" end up like this, then what's going to happen when the argument ends up being over "something big"?
I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
2007-01-31 01:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is...WOW...my significant other did this and stayed out all night and used the excuse that it was b/c of me. If so, I accept that. But what is unexcusable is having the arguments, refusing to confront the issue by ignoring the person you walked out on. You lead them (person at home) to believe something else went on and adding fuel to the fire for more walkout fights.
2007-01-31 02:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by new life abundant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be arguing in that way at all. It is normal in a relationship to argue but to storm out the house and leave! What are you guys doing, being in a relationship in the first place? Learn to communicate with each other on a civilized level.
2007-01-31 01:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person who has left must feel responsible that it aint such a big problem and should call back...neednot apologise.firstly it is ego that breeds this type of thinking.
both of them should feel that one shouldnot hurt the other .anyone of them should remain subdued to remind /show the other person that "i am bearing it for OUR sake"
2007-01-31 02:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by kasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋