Maybe I should have given more details. My mother did not raise my sisters and I. Since allowing her back into our lives at the age of 10 she has terrorized us. She has stolen my identity, tried to have my sister and I arrested, she is a drug user, a felon, lied about having cancer so we could support her financially and further more she is mentally unstable. We have forgiven her for everything in the past and tried to move on, but she does not quit. Recently I moved to the state where she and the rest of my family lives and had to move back after a few months, because she started to set her sights on my 15 year old daughter. My sisters and I want no association with her, legally and emotionally, because when she does wrong to someone (oh and she does) they come after us. I know this sounds extreme, but what else can we do?
2007-01-31 01:26:13 · 7 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, to be honest, unless you can have your blood completely transfused, and your DNA re-written, you can not divorce family. Sorry, family is your make up. It is not something you can run away from. You don't have to hang with this women, But she will always be your mother. Just the fact, she gave birth to you, you can't change that. As they say, you don't get to choose your family. Legally divorcing from a parent... what does that mean anyway for a grown adult? Nothing... absolutely nothing....
2007-01-31 01:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a 34 year old adult you should know by now that you cannot divorce a parent, nor can you be responsible for who she is or what she does. We do not get to pick our parents. But, you do need to live your own life, wherever you chose to live, (and sounds like it should not be too close to mom!) Move on, and encourage your siblings to do the same.
2007-01-31 09:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by renegade_dancer5678 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk with an attorney and see how to go about doing this as this is what you feel is best.... If you cannot divorce your mom then keep your daughter away from her and if you dont see your mom at all then do not worry about it. Go on with your life without having your mom in it is all i am saying. You also will need counseling and help to get past alot of this that has happened to you and your sisters. Do not let her near your daughter at all! You may have to move farther away from her!
2007-01-31 09:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact an attorney. You may need to file a public statement stating that you take no responsibilities for the actions of your mother.
This is similar to posting public notice after someone passes away stating that if they owed money, now is the time to come forward.
Good luck, it sounds like a bad situation.
2007-01-31 09:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to do anything! "Divorcing" a parent isn't something that can be done with paper, but If your relationship with her is that bad, cut her off. Just stop talking to her.
She will eventually get the message, and will start using someone else.
2007-01-31 10:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can’t divorce her, but you can get a restraining order requiring her to cease all contact with you and your family. If someone calls you about something she’s done, tell them that you are not responsible for your mother’s actions and not to call you again.
2007-01-31 09:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say you recently moved back, I am assuming to your old neighborhood. Change your phone number. Do not let relatives/friends anyone who will tell her where yall live, have your Phone number. Hopefully if she cannot find you or your daughter, she will move on to another individual to harrass. Unfortunately we are not allowed to choose our parents or relatives, but we do not have to socialise with them, and accept their bad behavior...
2007-01-31 09:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋