2007-01-31 01:25:19 · 8 answers · asked by doc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marrige is what you make it. Alot of people step into marriage with a false idea and expectation of their partner. Go in knowing all your weaknesses and strengths. Marry someone with some of the same goals and ideas of what marriage should be. Have alot of discussion about it with your other half. If they are a good communicator that is a good sign. Marriage is worth it, with the right person! Goodluck!
2007-01-31 01:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once read a talk whereupon the speaker presented a $1000 reward at the end of the speech to anyone who could fulfill the 4 things she listed, and then actually end up divorced. To this day, she has never had anyone who fulfilled all of those things and still divorced.
My husband and I actually do all 4 and we are SO happy!!! And he has mentioned to me that he too (like you) has fellow co-workers that seem to regret having gotten married. (Granted, he has other coworkers who are happy, too, but that's not what we're talking about.) I practically freaked out during the whole engagement--I was so afraid of divorce and being hurt and whether or not I wanted to commit myself to one person for life--no matter what. I mean, even if he becomes a vegetable or even if he recieves a brain injury and it changes his personality, I was promising to love him and be with him through it all! That's serious.
But I forgot that marriage (in the church) is a sacrament and God is never outdone in genorosity. No matter how much we give to each other in the relationship, God out-gives. Marriage rocks!!!! I can't even put into words the grace I feel we recieve or the deepening of the love and respect that I have for my husband.
Just the other day, my husband and I wanted to make a bet on some trivial thing--like the time a certain event happened or something like that--can't even remember. Anyway, we couldn't make the bet. Why not? Because neither one of us could think of anything we wanted. We have everything we need and want in our lives. Sure, there is suffering and pain still, but it brings us closer together. And sure, we disagree and sometimes we lose our temper. But we let the other one do what he/she needs to do, and they inevitably come back to apologize later on. And life rocks. I LOVE marriage. It's wonderful. It's absolutely worth every little sacrifice, every dime, every nickel, everyday.
Thanks for reading and God bless!
2007-01-31 10:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting married is worth it. I mean it just depends on the people who are getting married! If you view marriage as a ball and chain then that's what it will be. But if you have this wonderful woman who is not only your lover but your best friend then you will enjoy a life with her.
Sure there are hard times in any marriage, or relationship for that matter! Sure you will have some disagreements but things can't be perfect beacuse we are not perfect. I think those older guys probably don't have a strong connect with their wives. The older people that I know who have been married for 20 years or more say it is well worth it and they wouldn't change it for the world.
2007-01-31 09:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lovin' Life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is worth it if you find the right person and you both love eachother unconditionally. I think alot of people who marry young end up divorcing and probably regret things... just remember that these older guys probably did their part to get to the divorce stage too. Life is hard enough, if you find the right person to share it with who loves you and is "rooting" for you then it makes life much easier and more fun.
2007-01-31 09:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by jamie kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your co-workers sound pretty cynical. Maybe you should make your own decisions and draw your own conclusions.
Some people may very well feel like that but I bet that many more people are happy that they found someone they love to spend their life with and have children with.
If your initial attitude is that marriage will drain your bank account and wives are a pain, then I wouldn't bother getting married.
If you find someone you love and enjoy being with and want to build a life with her, then I would get married.
2007-01-31 09:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is worth it if it is the right one for you and you are ready for marriage.. Look at it this way even if you are living together as common law husband and wife the woman still has a right to half your stuff so what is the difference there anyways. Marriage and life is what you make of it.
2007-01-31 09:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry a gold digger then I can see where those men wouldn't have money and be unhappy, but over all marriage is what you make it and if you want to be miserable then you will be. If you want to be happy you work towards those goals and dreams that make you happy, if you start to lose sight of those goals you need to find a way to rekindle them.
2007-01-31 09:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your considering not getting married because of YOUR money,,,,,,,, spare the girl, and let her move on, to a guy who won't resent her in the end. There are plenty of men out there who would just love her, and not treat her like she is an inconvenience
2007-01-31 09:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋