i want to stop drinking but i cannot bacause thats how i get to forget the abuse.i cannot talk to any one except my brother in law. i have not even told my bestfiend or boyfriend about the drinking.i just want to get rid of the painful memories.i really need your help before i become an alcoholic
2007-01-31 01:23:54 · 11 answers · asked by meow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The message at the bottom of that bottle says...." Hey!, remember when...?" The answers you are looking for, ARE NOT at the bottom of that bottle! Alcohol is what is bringing up those memories...you're just snockered, that's why it seems to help but...., in fact it just drags you deeper into depression. Talking is good but you need to talk to someone who will instruct you to put the damn bottle down first!! Do you want to be the poor me, waa-waa, drunk, with no backbone? Try this...Lose the booze, plant your feet on the ground, look directly into the mirror and say.." I survived the abuse, I'm better than this, all I'm doing is ABUSING myself and it stops now!" Use those memories for growth not self neglect. Be your own best friend, but talk as much to as many people as needed to move forward. You can't change the past, only plan for the future.
2007-01-31 01:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by twostories 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you need to find help. The alcohol is only a slow death. The abuse you were in as a child haunting you now is because you never put a close on that part of your life. So after all of these years you are that shook up soda and it is ready to explode. Try going to a pastor, or counselor... I realize that my telling you that the abuse you were put threw is not your fault does not help but it was not. I am sorry that you have felt this way. If you are not willing to go to counseling try AA or if you are not interested in that I would suggest try writing your past down... all the abuse who abused you and then confront those if possible and burn the rest that it is not possible to confront.
2007-01-31 01:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop drinking because that isn't going to help if anything it will make everything worse. You can obviously quit because you can see it becoming a problem. It sounds to me like you need to be open about the abuse and confront it. .Maybe confront the abuser and tell them how it makes you feel, but don't be expecting anything in return. You have to realize that no one can do anything to change what has happened in the past, so you need to let go of it but you can't let it go until you decide why it is bothering you. You will most likely need some kind of professional help weather it be self help book of some kind or actually seeing a psychologist.
2007-01-31 01:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sara G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should do to help yourself is find an outlet, and not drinking! Find something that is of an interest to you, and is very time consuming, maybe a close friend that you can talk about you problems to and find ways to keep yourself occuppied and happy to avoid the bottle. There are such things that exist to help you, you just have to find out what you like, what can take your mind so far out, but to a happy place, try thinking of all of the good things, the good memories, when you find yourself down, when you get that way, find someone to be around preferably a non-drinker, someone that you look up to, some one who makes you feel good about yourself, and some one who encourages you that there is life outside of the pain, you shall prevail.
2007-01-31 01:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know why you have resorted to alcohol.
So now what is the problem here?
Drinking, just like self mutilation is not going to fix anything. You have chosen a cowards way out of not dealing with a less than perfect past. The truth is that it is the past and it is up to you to make your life what you want it to be now.
What you have managed to do with yourself is do something you enjoy and use the past as an excuse for doing it because drinking depresses you and makes you think about it. You have managed to do more harm than good.
Think about it. If you think you are old enough to drink then you are old enough to deal with problems the right way and not destroy your life in the meantime.
JUST DO IT!
2007-01-31 01:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should tell your close ones and they will support you. Try getting some speciased help and be willing to get rid of alcohol and memories...life is nice you know...maybe that made you stronger in some way...try living it in another way, have fun with your friends, bf, but not at parties or where you can drink or smoke or drug...in nature! a picnic or something...be cool and think you're important. You are! best luck!
2007-01-31 01:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by teen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice is that you go to counseling and that you also go to a group were they will help your drinking problem. You should also tell your boyfriend because he cold be one of the persons that could help you allot. Hope it all goes well and that you can get over your problem.
2007-01-31 01:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by ASULITA_313 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a very bad child hood . but i will not let it ruin the rest of my life . think about it like this if you become an alcoholic then you are letting them abuse your life and not just your childhood.
DONT GIVE THEM THAT show you are stronger than they are by over coming their abuse
2007-01-31 01:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by swamp d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself into re-hab and get some counseling now--there's not anything we can do to help you--except to offer our advice on here--if you don't take that step and do this for yourself--you're gonna be a lost soul. God Bless.
2007-01-31 01:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please seek the help you need from a therapist. You are worth much more than the treatment you received. If you dont overcome this, he has won. Dont let this happen
2007-01-31 01:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋