My husband and I are now finding out the whole story. We have only been married for a year and we had been living next door to them on their property. It has been a nightmare and apparently one my husband has been living all of his life. He has been diagnosed as bipolar, but I think that she is the one that has made him beleive he is sick, like a brainwashing or something. And any woman that is in his life, she lets them have a honeymoon period where she is real nice and then she slowly works on his mind to chase them away. While at the same time she is threatening the woman behind his back and then denies that it is ever done, til the situation between the couple becomes violent and then laughs and jokes if he hurts the woman. He has learned this behavior all his life. He is just figuring out how she has brainwashed him and made him feel that he is sick. Do you think he can ever get past this pain?
2007-01-31 01:20:48 · 6 answers · asked by ladybug 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he can, with counseling. But first, you guys need to move away from his mother, and off their property; she'll continue to control him if you're that close physically. Distance, is a good start, and then counseling. Bipolar is very treatable, he just needs to get away from his mother, then concentrate on getting well. It's obvious that you love him, and will continue to support his efforts to recover from the trauma caused by his mother. Best of luck to both of you!
2007-01-31 01:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already, MOVE!
If your mother-in-law has made threats to you, then maybe you should consider getting an order of protection until you guys get off his parents property.
Your husband may very well be bi-polar----only a professional could diagnose this, but most certainly his mother has some mental issues and for peace of mind and security, you two need to leave and limit the amount of communication you have with this woman.
2007-01-31 09:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can with counseling and help... You also need to move and not be across the street from them. He needs to not let him mom control him this way anymore. He may need to cut ties with her all together at least for the time being and focus on just you and your marriage.
2007-01-31 09:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can, but he will need counceling and you should join him to make your marriage strong. Also he will need to cut ties with his mom, which will be hard. If she is doing this crap to you, try having a small voice activated recorder on you and tape the threats she makes then play it for anyone she denies it to, this will be proof and should make her look like the evil B**** she is.
2007-01-31 09:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. MOVE
2. seek professional help, it will take time to undue years of learned behaviours
3. cut off ties with this women until he is strong enough to face her.
4. involve your family so he can learn what a loving parent should do for their children.
2007-01-31 09:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your husband suffers emotionally from his mothers verbal abuse.The farther you all get from her the better.He needs counseling
2007-01-31 09:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋