We are both divorced and live together with my children. I am ready for the next step. We do everything together but I am limited because I want a formal commitment.
2007-01-31 01:14:31 · 11 answers · asked by ANNY G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guys are kind of reluctant to change things that are working...I take it he has not brought the subject up ever? I mean the only thing you can do is put your needs on the table. Only a few outcomes to this one. Either he agrees. He disagrees...in which case are you ready to end it and move on or wait? I would think it out before I spoke to him because this is a big deal, and it could place you in position of having to make a move if he is not in agreement.
2007-01-31 01:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, you have three kids you are setting an example for, and you have lived with this guy for three years, and on top of that marriage was never discussed? How can you be in an intimate relationship with someone and not know how to talk to them about important issues? This is something you learn to do together before you move in... and long before marriage. And you certainly never move in, esp. with children involved, with no plans for the future. You have played this out all out of order. If you can't even feel free to talk to this guy about anything and everything.... you do not have a friendship, which is the foundation of every successful marriage.
2007-01-31 01:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him three years and live together, why are you having such a hard time bringing up the subject of marriage? Why don't you start with that issue.
2007-01-31 01:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe in 3 years the subject has never come up. He probably doesn't feel any differently now than he did before.
However, if you really never have spoken about it, your best bet is to be matter-of-fact. Just come out and ask him how he feels.
But realistically, if you love each other and are already living together, what difference is a piece of paper going to make? When I hear this it always sounds to me like a woman doesn't trust a man so she needs that binding agreement. If you really love each other, you don't.
2007-01-31 01:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just sit him down & ask where he sees your relationship heading in the near future.
If your living with him he probably thinks it's all good and nothing else is required. TALK to him tell him what you want.
2007-01-31 01:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend hasn't asked you to marry him because he doesn't want to be financially responsible for another man's children. Give him a reason to marry you and ask him to move out. You'll find out if he really loves you or not.
2007-01-31 01:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by rusty_1491 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What about honesty. Don't be demanding, just ask a simple question of how he feels about it. Then most important thing is to listen to his answer.
2007-01-31 01:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prapose to him! It is the modern world, woman are doing all the time. You ready for the next step so ask him if he is.
2007-01-31 01:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Piece of cake.
Just tell'im you once falled in a trap (marriage),and didn't learn the lesson and that you want to make the same mistake again...
Ask'im afterwards..........:Are you up to it ?
2007-01-31 01:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Hyperion 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be brave and propose to him on valentines day he can only say yes or no, If he says no at least you tried. : )
2007-01-31 01:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by chickstral 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋