How can I help my son with ADHD behavioral and learning problems. The medication doesn't seem to work.?

Question

My son is 11 years old and in the 5th grade. His behavior at school is terrible and he is constantly in trouble at school. The school was constantly calling me at work about behavior problems. He leaves the the class room when being disaplined by the teacher. I feel the teacher is angry with me because of my son's behavior. When I am called to the school that these things don't go on at home. They look at me as if I am lying. My son is not learning anything in school because he is disrupting the class. He will not be promoted to the next grade. How can I get him the help he needs? The medication he is taking is not even helping him to focus in class. We have changed the medication several times. He is way behind his fellow classmates. The teacher has given up. What can I do?

Answer 1

You want your son to do well is school and you said that your son is doing well at home then the problem is not with you it is with the school. Does your son really need the medication? Whose idea was it? Was it the school that implied that he may have ADHD and take him to the doctor? Of course, after listening to what you say the Doctor would conclude that your son has a problem. The teachers always say that the students have ADHD. That is what they said about me. It turned out that I was just bored at class and the class did not interest me much. I was almost put on medication, until my parents noticed why I was misbehaving they looked at what being studied and they realized that I knew the material well and I was just acting out because I was bored out my mind and wanted some entertainment. By the way my grades suffered, because I was not paying attention to the teachers and I was a nuisance because I would yell out the answer and argue with them for fun. They thought I was rude and had ADHD. The teachers themselves are overworked, underpaid, tired, and have X amount of time to teach their material. Hence, they do not like destructions that you son may offer.
Let me ask you something have you talked to him and not at him? Did you sit him down and had a talk with him asked him why he does what he does? Not, yell but to ask. Does he read at home? If he does read what does he read? When you talk to him does he seem to know more or less about a topic for his age? If more then your son may be just like I was. Maybe he needs to move up a class level to be challenged. If not, then don't worry.
That means that he is not getting the material. He just does not know how to express himself. He sees that teachers have given up on him, so why should he care. If people labeled him with the scarlet letters of ADHD, then he may already think to himself why change. People expect me to act this way, then I may as well act this way. He does not understand that it is a wrong behavior. Don't yell at that. Get him a tutor or better yet, you work with him. If he sees that you care, he will also care. If he does not understand something as you are explaining it to him don't loose patience continue to work with him.
Then you will need to build his self-confidence up do it now before it is too late. Send him to martial arts a class that builds character. It teaches self worth and to rise to the occasion to be the best that you can be. If his confidence rises so will his grades and the medication will be in the past.
I come from a family of teachers. My mom is a teacher, my uncle is a teacher, my grandpa was a teacher, my grandma was a teacher, my great grandparents on both sides were teachers of Judaica, and I am studying to become a teacher and taught Temple school as well as tutored kids. I can tell you one thing that if your son was in my class the first thing that I would do is to schedule an appointment with him and talk to him at his level. I would ask him what does he want to get out of the class. What is it that interests him and then work with him at his problem until he gets it. If he still misbehaves I would go to step number two call a conference with you and your spouse with the kid being present. I would explain to you my part and then work with you to establish another way of study. You raised him and live with him you would know how he learns and acts and that way we can design a plan that would lead to better grasp of a subject at hand and his behavior. If all else fails and he still does not behave properly and his grades are not up, then together we can find him a place to channel his energy like sports, martial arts, or whatever. However, if sports fail then take him to a police station and let officers of the law tell him what happens to people who do bad things in school. Let the officer scare him a little. But the most important thing never, ever give up on your son. He is your flesh and blood.
In my religion, Judaism, we have a saying, “To save one life it is as if you saved the nation” i.e. do what you can.
I hope that this helps. Good luck and I hope that your son will one day grow up to be the next President of the US, the next Governor, the next General, doctor, lawyer, or maybe like me a teacher, or become a son that you can brag about to your friends.
P.S.
I am not a psychologist and this is not a medical advice of taking your child of meds. I am however a teacher and I care about my students. I am however strongly against labeling my students with ADHD. Kids are hyper: they run, they play, they can’t sit still, and they still do not know how to express themselves. Parents want teachers to raise their kids for them. So, teachers know this and they rather not deal with it themselves so they ask the parents to medicate the child. Better a quiet child during class time then the one who jumps around.

Answer 2

My son grew to become into clinically determined with upload. fortunately, he grew to become into no longer hyperactive. That being the version. habit exchange worked nicely for my son via fact he grew to become into no longer Hyperactive. If he have been, we'd have long previous with the medicine. there are maximum of med innovations obtainable. that's in comparison to a pair of years in the past the place the only option grew to become into Ritalin. no longer that Ritalin is a bad direction of meds to apply, it only wasn't the splendid med for each baby with ADHD. i might discover the therapy with meds. you may continuously provide up the meds if there are unfavourable reactions. you may ought to attempt distinctive meds to discover the single which terrific suits your baby's desires. this isn't any longer an actual technology. As you mentioned, the therapy is as much as the mum and dad, so it type of feels that the rfile and the professional are of little help. they are going by skill of your judgements. provide them the earnings of the doubt until eventually you spot how the therapy works. once you're nonetheless uncomfortable with the physician's advise or therapy, discover a sparkling rfile and get a 2d opinion.

Answer 3

Find a church that has various programs for children 11 yrs. old.

Read Bible verses to your child every evening.

Have you ever told your child that God knows everything that he does and that one day he will stand in front of God and make an account of everything he has said and done?

He may not fear you, but the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Fatherless children need a heavenly Father who promises never to leave them or forsake them. The heavenly Father seems to be the only father we can depend upon.

Answer 4

Your solution is multifaceted but one thing you can do is get him involved in nature.Many attention defecit kids have uncanny abilities when it comes to being aware in the wilderness. There are numerous organization around the country. One I've had contact with and recommend is wildernessawareness.org

Answer 5

beat his ass then maby he will do what you will tell him to do.