Since the kids me and my fiances sex life has lacked, how can I bring it back?

Question

Our sex life in the past ahs been some what fulfilling, but now it is very quick and sometimes I don't even think he's interested, I get tired of being the one to make the first move, and then when I do I have to do all the work and its not even that long. Sometimes I regret even attempting? What can I do to solve this problem? Lingerie is not really even striking to him, though at this point why would it be he's seen the goods for many years now, but I don't understand.Could someone please give me some good advice for this?

Answer 1

Many men have declining interest in sex after a relationship has gone on for a while. The challenge/conquest is gone. It's also possible that after the children were born your body is not in the shape it was pre-kids. He may not be as attracted.

Put the lingerie away. He's seen the goods. And in a long term relationship the only thing lingerie does is let the man know he's going to get some, which in your case will do nothing if he's really not interested.

As far as advice, if communication isn't working you have a tough task ahead of you. You could try to show disinterest in him hoping to rekindle the challenge aspect. However this could backfire and he might appreciate being left alone which in the long run could kill your relationship.

Basically, clothing, lotions or anything else you would do is probably not the answer. The answer really is in his head and that's where you need to gain access to for your answer.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Sounds like he is happy with being celibate - get a dildo or a lover.

Answer 3

Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Try making him feel special, tell him how sexy he is etc....

COMMUNICATE!!!!!!!!!

How is he suppose to fix it if he doesn't know what the problem is, tell him how you are feeling