we both love each other and we want to get married,but the problem is that we r frm different cast??

Question

i m madly luff with a guy,and we both wants to get married..but the problem is that we both r frm different religion,,and my parents will never accept it,,,,now our relation comes at that point,that we cant leave each other??????????

Answer 1

CASTE IS NO LONGER A BAR IN MARRIAGE. IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER YOU SHOULD MARRY EACH OTHER WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR PARENTS CONSENT.

Answer 2

Marriages are made in heaven. This is a well known saying. When two people meet and their marriage is solemnized, it is believed that this is the wish of god.

Marriage may be in the same caste or it may be inter caste. Marriages within the same caste mean that both boy and the girl belong to the same community. Intercaste marriage means girl and boy are from different castes where one member belongs to lower caste.

Marriage is a sacred institution which binds both the woman and man in a pious relation. It gives this relation a meaning. When a marriage takes place, two souls are united and this opens new vistas in their lives. But,human beings are so selfish that have virtually spoilt the sacredness of these relations.

When God created men and women, he has not assigned any caste on them. So,how can the human beings divide God's created world into castes and communities.

The things do not end up here. From the time of Kings and Queens, caste system has been practiced. In earlier days, it was customary to marry in the same castes. If anyone dares to disobey the rules of the society, he was confined to severe punishments. Whole community was barred from keeping any relation with the family where inter caste marriage had taken place.

Customs and religions practiced were so strict and merciless that even sometimes the boy and girl were hacked to death by their own family members due to the pressures from the society.

Sometimes young hearts were separated by marrying them off to other boy or girl of the same caste. This way the lovers were separated by their own relatives. There are lots of such incidents where you can find the merciless punishments inflicted by the opposition parties of the intercaste marriages.

With more globalization and increase in educational facilities, there is great change in the views of people.As modernization has affected every section of society, intercaste marriages have also received acceptance from the people in urban and modern societies. There has been wide change in the social scenario. Parents and relatives of the lovers have been coming up with more open minds with wide acceptance of marriages outside their own castes.

But in some regions which lack exposure to the education and modern society culture, things have remained unchanged. There are still oppositions by the members of different castes if they encounter any incident of intercaste marriage. These societies need some change of views so that young hearts could unite and live happily. A good relation needs understanding and devotion from boy and girl to blossom. If there are malpractices like caste system, then there will be unhealthy marital relations which increase the rate of divorces and mutual misunderstandings.

Government should come forward to make such policies and rules which can encourage marriage between the members of two different castes. There should be some type of appreciation from the government so that more intercaste marriages can take place. Though government has taken many steps to improve the situation but still there is a great need to implement more measures to make the situation happier.

Answer 3

I understand your dilemma because religion has been a plague of relationships all down the centuries.It is not just a question of one caste marrying into another it has been a taboo affecting Catholics and Protestants,Moslems and Christians and one African tribe with another.The list is endless.
Essentially we all have the same God.Different religions are the result of varying interpretations as to how we should worship and the customs we should observe.
Your form of religion is no more than an accident of birth.In other words you would not practice what you do had you not been born into the family you were.The exact same applies to your boyfriend
Do you think that your God-or his-would prefer you to remain unhappy and apart simply because you have a different set of customs and observances?
I think that would be a strange God indeed because it would be endorsing what is no less than prejudice.
By being together you can,as many couples do,keep your own individual forms of worship if you wish to.
Freedom to marry who you will is a fundamental right and not one over which parents should have a veto on religious grounds.
If he is a good man then they should be happy for you.I am willing to bet here are plenty of guys in your own caste who would make far worse son-in-laws than the guy you are with

Answer 4

The life be not so easy for both of you after marriage if at least families of both of you are not ready. If you have courage to face all that odd situations then move ahead otherwise kill your love today - as its best to do early than latter. If both of you decides to move on then draw the whole strategy in advance and do not think then very soon every thing will be normal. Even the parents do try to make things normal but the community leaders do oppose and make the situation worst. The best way out is that you must be financial strong enough and is able to settle some other place. Move out of your parental house and get yourself accommodate at other place before marriage so that you have not to take any hasty step and people of local area do know that you live somewhere else but the address they should not know.

Answer 5

The Word of God states that "two people should not be unequally yoked". If you are a Christian you would know that. HOWEVER two different religions can be in the same marriage IF one does NOT prevent the other to worship God. If he is going, ( or you ) to always try to convert one another there is a hard road ahead, and it will NOT be a fruitful marriage. It sounds contradictory what I have said, but re-read the previous few lines slowly. I was married to a woman who thought she had all the time in the world to do what she wanted to do, and come to Christ WHEN she WANTED to. She DID NOT prevent me from worshipping God (or even try to), however it was an awful marriage. The husband is SUPPOSED to be the Spiritual leader in the home if he is any kind of man at all, and I know some women who are the Spiritual Leaders because their husbands are unable to lead by Spiritual Ignorance and Blindness. There are a great MANY women in the Word of God that puts men to shame. I did not FORCE my beliefs on her either. You had better know what you are getting into before you make your decision as marriage is a TWO WAY STREET, and you have to give and take as the situation arises, and NO ONE can see the future. You will be marrying him, not his parents or yours. Think about this long and hard before you make your choice.

Answer 6

Are you madly in love or madly in lust?
If you are truly in love and you both want to marry then go ahead. You cannot live your life according to other peoples rules. Perhaps you do not take your respective religions seriously. If you do then maybe you should reconsider. If you have children will you want you child raised with different religious values than you believe are right? How will he feel about this. This is a serious thing in a marraige. It can cause a lot of problems between you. I would not be concerned about what family members think. I would be concerned about how it will eventually effect your relationship. I have been there and done that and I would not advise it.

Answer 7

I would not marry someone who was a different belief and religion as i was... It causes way too many problems down the road... Trust me it is not worth it What do you mean it comes to a point that you cannot leave each other??? Are you by any chance pregnant and if you are this is really the wrong reason to get married... You can still choose not to marry him and still have this baby and he can be in the childs life as it grows up.

Answer 8

I feel that if you both love each other and you have evaluated your differences then there is no reason why you shouldn't go for it. As far as the family, well eventually they will except it, and realize that you can think for yourself and that yopu have your own life to live, even if they think that you are wrong, and that you make mistakes, thats what they are created for? If you both feel the same, meaning you and your significant other, then you two can find a way to make your religious preferences work, it is posssible, you respect his, and in return you respect his, this is solely about you and him, everyone elses input is respected, and valued, its just that in the end it will only be you, so you have to decide for you, not anyone else?

Answer 9

I had a friend in your situation once. She married the love of her life and her family stopped speaking to her - for years. Eventually though, her family was reunited as her parents realized that the marriage was working and they heard from other relatives that they had grandchildren they'd never seen.

It's a hard choice, and there will be rough times ahead, but religion is no reason for the two of you to be apart. Now if your family had REAL reasons for not liking him like he treated you badly or he had a drug problem things would be different - but since religion is a matter of preference your family is not trying to protect you, they are merely trying to manipulate you.

It is YOUR life - do what's right for you.

Answer 10

HI DEAR I M HAPPY TO SEE THAT U BOTH WANT TO GET MARRIED.IF U THINK UR FRIEND IS ABLE TO LIVE WITH UWITHOUT HIS PARENTS.HE CAN AFFORD UR ALL DAILY NEEDS.IF U R ALSO WORKING,THEN UR BOTH'S INCOME IS ENOUGH TO STAY HAPPY. DO U HAVE FULL FAITH ON HIM.BECAUSE LUV N FAITH IS 2 DIFFERENT THINGS DEAR.DO ONE THING TAKE A PAPER N WRITE UR LOVER'S ALL GOOD N BAD THINGS{HONESTLY}.WHAT DID HE DO WITH U N WHEN U WERE IN TROUBLE WHAT WAS HIS ANSWERS.PL REVISE ALL THE THINGS.THEN MAKE A CONCLUSION WHETHER HE IS A RIGHT MAN BECAUSE ONCE U MARRIED NTHING WILL BE IN UR HAND.DONT TELL OR SHARE THIS THING WITH HIM.ALL THE BEST .KEEP IN MIND ARRANGE MARRIAGE IS NOT BAD.IT IS MORE ENJOYABLE THEN LUV MARRIAGE.I KNOW U R FEELING BAD BUT DEAR DNT SEE FEW YEARS JUST SEE UR WHOLE LIFE, UR CHILD'S FUTURE.PL DO UR DECISION CALMLY.

Answer 11

Love and marriage is between 2 person. If u love him and he loves u too and u both want to get married, by all means go ahead. Don't have to worry abt ur parents. They won't be in this world forever but you and ur bf will and both of you are living your own life...so decide what you want and do it. Am sure both of you are old enough to decide for your own future unless you still need your parents to do it for u.