My husband of two years never got me a wedding ring. The other day he bought me a 50.00 fakey. I'm too embarressed to wear it. Is he so clueless, or trying to hurt me? This the same day I bought him a 400.00 one at 70 percent off.
2007-01-31 00:34:59 · 31 answers · asked by sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now with valentines day coming I think I will get him nothing.
2007-01-31 00:43:14 · update #1
Why did you wait 2 years to get him one?
2007-01-31 00:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Okay,
I know a wedding ring should symbolize how much he loves you and you are looking at it as a token of how much he loves you but don't look at it this way. I think your husband is not so much cheap as he is frugal and you have known this about him since before you married him. In this case if I were you I wouldn't fight fire with fire because the only problem you mention is that he is cheap, you can turn that around. He probably thought he got a really good deal and thinks that he did something good-you are right he may be clueless but you have something good it just needs a little work....you never mentioned him cheating on you or hurting you or neglecting to take care of you so consider yourself lucky because a lot of women would love to have your problem. I say continue on with what you normally do on valentines day, don't ruin a beautiful day because you want to get even. Show him a wonderful time, hell- go all out for him and maybe you can show him by example how you would like to be treated when it comes to spending money. Everyone has faults and you just have a little work to do, so I say go all out on Valentine's day and then maybe the day after you can have a little chat with him about his spending habbits-don't turn this into a bad situation- handle it with class and dignity and you will see that the old saying is true "You can kill more bee's with honey-than you can with vinegar".
Continue to be the sweet person he married and then once you have the opportuniy to talk with him about it I guarantee you will he loosen the wallet strings just a little.
Good luck :)
2007-01-31 01:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was all he could get for the moment. Im sure he didnt mean it in a nasty way. Respect him and be so nice. If it was a joke he will feel like a true heel! Kindness heaps coals on the head of those who try to hurt one!
Maybe he is merely giving you a fakey to later on replace with the real thing. How do you know the real thing wont come on valentines day????? DOnt assume, it makes a fool out of him and you. Just be positive and dont run with emotion. Emotions will only cause trouble.
2007-01-31 00:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't get him nothing for Valentines day. YOu do love him and to get him nothing for Valentines Day would just not be right. Bottom line is a wedding ring is an important purchase and it should not be taken lightly. You should discuss the issue with him and go pick one out that you like that is in your budget.
2007-01-31 01:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by D R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is just clueless that you care about that. I mean, you did wait 2 years so maybe he thinks it doesn't matter that much to you. My Mom has been married for almost 8 years and she still doesn't have a wedding ring. But, she doesn't care about it. You could easily show him a nice ring that you would like and tell him how nice you think it is and maybe he will get the hint (that is what I did to get my dream ring).
2007-01-31 00:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok when you say ring do you mean a wedding band or a diamond? Honestly wedding bands, even the nice ones can be bought for very cheap anymore, the markup at retailers is ridiculous. Now a diamond ring or wedding set can be costly. Honestly if you are in love with this man what do you care? It is just a ring. My step mom and my dad don't have rings and they have a great marriage.
If you don't feel like getting him a gift for Valentines then don't.
2007-01-31 00:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know this is a difficult problem, and you might not like my answer. I don't understand why your husband bought a cheap ring, but he probably has a good reason. For some reason guys don't seem to think that women will notice when they get you all something fake or cheap. Besides that point, you should probably talk to him, ask him why he bought the ring, and if he has a good answer then let it go. You don't have to have expensive jewelry to know somebody loves you. Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-31 00:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Give him the ring back and tell him to try again. Tell him you are worth more than a $50 ring.
Try not to take it personally. If he really IS clueless, you'll have to clue him in. Excercise some patience with him.
If you want this marriage to work out it sounds like you'll need a lot of patience.
2007-01-31 01:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Picasso 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him know how you feel, it could be that he isn't aware? Though i see that as less likely, I think that men are always aware, but tell him anyway and see how he reacts to it, explain to him how much you value him and your marriage, and that he needs to step up his level to atleast where he matches with you. And as far as valentines, no don't give anything, you can purchase, but wait and see where his heart is at first,a and what he brings to the table to show that he cares about you.
2007-01-31 01:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see that I'm the only person saying this but....what about the meaning behind it? Does the price really matter? My wife had never had a diamond before and I desperately wanted her to have a beautiful ring, but all I could afford was one from Walmart. She says she loves it for what it represents. Maybe it's all he could afford? The size and the price shouldn't matter, it should be the love and commitment to each other that it stands for.
2007-01-31 00:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I dont feel money should be the issue here. You 2 arent buying eachothers love.
Ive been married 22 yrs and there have been times we couldnt get eachother a gift.
What you give of yourself..your heart is what matters.
FORGET THE MONITARY VALUE...that wont buy you happiness.
2007-01-31 00:59:08 · answer #11 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋