Hi I am almost 30. i left some emails yesturday. I live in fl. i dont want the boring life . I want to travel , dance, swim. lay out in the sun, roller blade and basically hang out on my spare time. i dont want to cook clean and have kids. the only problem is i dont know if its normal. i dont know if there are any women my age that are like me. is there and where can i find them
2007-01-31 00:29:41 · 16 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 36 and I feel exactly the same way that you do. Don't want kids - never did. Don't want to be tied down in one place. That doesn't mean I don't want to stay in one place, but I want the option to take off if I want to, and live someplace new. I want to travel the world, maybe join the Peace Corps. I'm not against marriage at all, but I want a husband who feels the same way I do about kids and travel. I am a hard worker, and I don't job-bounce. The job I have allows me the freedome to travel and to work from home. I know I'm lucky.
I don't know if this is 'normal' or not, but I know we're not the only ones who feel this way. Don't conform to someone else's idea of 'normal'! Be happy, and be a blessing unto others. That's enough.
Edited to add: I don't think people who have kids are boring, and I don't think it's wrong for others to make having kids their top priority. It's just not for me. The kind of fun I like to have is not always child appropriate (and I'm not talking about anything illegal here), but that doesn't mean I have more fun than you do - just a different kind of fun. Kids DO tie you down in some ways - you can't deny that. It's not a bad thing - just not something I want.
2007-01-31 00:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly normal! They say that the 30's are like the new 20's. I'm 36, am single, no children, my own flat, a good job, great friends and a loving family. I've had boyfriends and stuff but have been single now for around a year, although I have dated in that time. To be honest, over the last few days I've been thinking how I'd really like to be with someone now and to settle down but part of me enjoys my independence way too much.
Enjoy your life (which it sounds as if you are!). Just because society says you should be settling down, it doesn't mean you have to! Never feel any pressure to do so. You could meet someone at 40 and settle down and you may still have 30 years or so with the same man...so if you're happy as you are keep doing what you're doing x
2007-01-31 00:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is completely normal.....I am a 25 year woman (will be 26 in April 07) who has broken many hearts and has had my heart broken many times as well..... so I am all for being a 30 year old not ready to settle down, get married and have kids (not saying anything is wrong with settleing down but let's be honest your life does change dramatically when you have kid(s))....... I am a professional HR specialist, a model and I am also a student. I like to travel, look pretty, SHOP, shop, ShOp, tan, dance, skate, hang out with friends and live a carefree life....... so I do not think that I am ready to settle down and do all the things that so called "normal" people do...if you are abnormal then that makes two of us that are abnormal!!!!! We should start our own abnormal crew...how about it....?? let me know!
2007-01-31 01:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am in my late 30's, happy being single and believe am normal. What I find sad is people try to fix me with someone as I feel content with the life I live without a man. Its a choice but I never say never may be someone someday might convince me to change my way but until then I refuse to copy others. Life is to be enjoyed which ever way one decides to.
2007-01-31 02:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by lulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same right now! when i was in my 20's i would have been happy to settle down and having kids, however now i turned 30 and this the very last thing on my mind! i still feel young and love being single and the freedom, i'm going out loads, finishing my degree then i want to concentrate on my career and travelling etc. there's nothing wrong with that, everyone's different.
2007-01-31 00:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by sbro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im in the UK... and I have a great life.. I travel I swim I dance and I too lay in the sun. OH forgot to say I have 2 kids suddenly im boring?!?
2007-01-31 00:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by pinkkitten 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its really your choice, I happen to have a husband and two kids and I get to do what I want, and sometimes my husband joins me and we have a great time.
I would think that if you aren't living with mommy then you have to cook and clean for yourself right?Do you do your own laundry? I mean seriously having a family doesn't tie you down, its not having money that ties people down.
2007-01-31 01:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of 25 is a superb age to cool down. some women human beings are death to get married yet i think of that this may well be a mistake. human beings could flow out date occasion and do all that stuff until now getting tied down. that is why maximum of human beings get divorced.
2016-11-01 23:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez.. there are a bunch.. nothing wrong with being single if you enjoy your life..where is it written that you have to be married..if you are happy dont worry about it and come on. you are in your 30s it could happen one day when you least expect it and if it happens that way it would be best that way you know you werent looking for it..
2007-01-31 12:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Fella. My wife has been married to me for ten years. And she does not no when to settle down. keep her mouth from talking. You want her. she yours. I just need pictures of her and you together. And i can divorse the *****. It's up2u. just dont expect any effection romance or passion. but i guess you will not get this from any woman in her 30's. just what i led to believe. i could be wrong. and no doubt i'm. so i'm told. please take her.
2007-01-31 00:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋