If you were pregnant when you got married, did you wish you would have rather waited to have a baby until you were married or would have rather not been pregnant at your wedding?
I'm just curious because my fiance and I decided that after we get married in July we would try for our first baby. I am considering mentioning that maybe we could start to try a couple of months before we get married because it usually takes a few months to conceive. With this, though, I know that there is a possibility to conceive when we first start trying and that I could possibly be pregnant when we get married. What do you think?
2007-01-31 00:25:56 · 22 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would just like to add that we've been together for almost 7 years, 5 of them living together. I'm 23 and he's 25 and I don't want to wait any longer because I've wanted to have a baby for over 2 years now...
2007-01-31 01:05:43 · update #1
Well, first of all, I completely understand how strong the desire to start trying for your first baby is. Especially when you know you're with the right person and all the rest is just right.
Pregnancy is hard though, seriously. You could be really lucky and feel great, but chances are you'll be tired, bloated, uncomfortable, maybe have heartburn or gas, back pain, the list goes on and on. Until you've been there you can't imagine how you're going to feel once you're pregnant.
Not to mention the emotional stress of being pregnant!
And a wedding is hard enough on you emotionally, without being pregnant too!
It's only a couple more months, I'd say wait just a little and save yourself the possible complications of being pregnant during your wedding, and the stress that TTC puts on your sex life. You won't regret it! Enjoy your wedding to the max, then spend your honeymoon "baby-making"!!
(yah, that's another reason to wait, a lot of women aren't really in the mood for sex during pregnancy, and that could be a real drag on your wedding night and honeymoon)
2007-01-31 01:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Maddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of your age, or if you have any biological clock concerns, but if you don't, I'd suggest waiting.
I was married in 2003, and my husband and I built a beautiful marriage in that time. We talked about having children right away, and decided it was best to develop some fond memories together, and strengthen our marriage. I'm now 3 months pregnant, and I'd say the choice to wait was a great one. We travelled all over the world and have wonderful memories of our times together, before having children. I'm certain that these memories and the strength of our relationship will make the challenge of having children easier to bear together.
Plus, being pregnant when you're married can pose many problems, such as the wedding dress fittings, honeymoon location, and activities permitted during the wedding and on the honeymoon (i.e., scuba diving, hot tubs, saunas, wine with dinner, champagne toasts).
2007-01-31 08:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if your fiance is happy with this idea, go for it. But i will tell you one thing. i enjoyed some much my wedding and drinking, smoking and dancing, that i am sure i would have not done all that if i was pregnant. i enjoyed also my honey moon. 2 weeks in Paris. we walked so much and tried to see everything. with the tiredness of the wedding my husband and I got fever.
my friend was pregnant and everyone was dancing and enjoying their drink, except for her. Plus the wedding take so much energy out of you. You don't want to be fainting here and there. And if you have a complicated pregnancy? or high risk ? Not all pregnancy are easy like a fairy tale. think all about these concerns and try not to do anything that can interfer your big day because you will have plenty of time to get pregnant.
at the end of the day its your decision. do, what you and your fiance are happy with.
congratulations on your wedding
2007-01-31 08:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you wait until after marriage and then a year or two. I have 4 beautiful children I wouldn't give up for anything. I got married and a month later got preg. I wish looking back now we would have waited at least a year and had more time to enjoy the married life without children.
2007-01-31 08:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by ccdispatch911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the idiots on here. I think you should wait until after your wedding as if you do become pregnant quickly your big day *might* be spoiled by pregnancy symptoms such as bloating, nausea, sickness or whatever. I was lucky and only suffered with nausea but I still wouldn't have wanted to be at a wedding when I was feeling ill - esp my own!! This is just my thoughts and how I would feel. It is entirely up to you and you are obviously very in love and can't wait to seal that with a new baby.
Good luck for your wedding - I hope you have a brilliant day!
2007-01-31 08:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by kimbo1605 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of the people that have already responded all gave good answers. I think if you take some of the good answers and sum it into one, you have a good plan.
I especially agree with the whole bubbly thing. I also agree with the one person who said that her and her husband decided to make fond memories, before they had children.
From personal experience morning sickness (all day sickness) sucks. I would hate to see you experience that while trying to get the wedding together and you not be able to enjoy your honeymoon.
I also agree with the one person who also stated that you may run into problems with your dress not fitting. That would be awful.
Also, if you run into snags with your wedding plans, the stress alone is enough to cause complications with your pregnancy and unborn child. As a health factor I would suggest waiting.
I hope all the answers help with your decision. Good Luck and congratulations to you and your soon to be hubby.
2007-01-31 08:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. It's only a few months and weddings are stressful enough without being pregnant on top of that. I had a lot of morning sickness and I can't imagine you would want to be sick on your wedding day. You might not be able to wear the dress you want, either.
2007-01-31 09:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Charles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to try to conceive until after you are married. Don't rush things...slow down, relax, enjoy your wedding. There will be years & years to have and raise a baby. Take your time.
2007-01-31 08:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would prob prefer to wiat until afterwards. I am pregnant now and I know how uncomfortable and unnattractive I feel. I dont think you would want that spoilling your big day! Also, you can celebrate with a glass of bubbly.
There a lot of things you have to give up when you are pregnant, even more than when the baby has arrived.
Also, itl be nicer for him to be married to you first because if anything happens and you gave birth out of wedlock, he would have no immeadiate rights to the baby and would have to go to court to apply for them.
It i a personal choise though, i just think youl feel niccer without a large sticky bump!
Good luck, im dying for a snickers bar now... (not allowed peanuts!)
xx
ps. its also supposed to be one of the hottest summers too. and im not looking forward to being heavily preg then!
2007-01-31 08:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by bored4bored 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
get married first.. its the RIGHT thing to do anyways. and it does not take a few months to conceive for veryone.. i got married and 2 weeks later became pregnant. it all depends on ur diet, how healthy u are and stress level..if u want to get pregnant REALLY BADLY that thats all u think about and stuff, its not ganna happen lol. good luck!
2007-01-31 09:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋