whenever he's mad with another kid,he says he wants to hit that kid.Why ? is he a lier ?
2007-01-31 00:16:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WANTING to hit the kid and ACTUALLY hitting the kid are 2 different things! Kids have that ability to wind up us adults to the point of steam coming out the ears! So far he has kept restraint and not hit any kids (I assume??) I wouldn't say he was a liar. The opposite, he's honest about saying he'd LIKE to give a kid a whack! Thats not the same as losing it totally and ACTUALLY giving a child a whack!
2007-01-31 00:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by SonicSon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably said out of frustration or anger. More of a knee jerk reaction. However, If it concerns you then ask him about it.
When he says he wants to smack some kid...ask him why?
Most people don't set out to hit their children. Most do it out of frustration and or anger. Get a little closer to him by finding out why he feels the way he does. Was he abused as a child?
Even though we may not want to do something, sometimes it happens anyway due to past experiences and not knowing how to deal with emotions or simply not knowing a better way.
Before you decide to have children with him or any other man. You need to know what expectations he may have about how a child should be disciplined, raised and loved. You may find that you have a completely different idea than he does. Expectations are rarely talked about in a relationship but its one of the most important things. Communicating what you expect from a husband father or boyfriend. And him communicating his own expectations as well. It will make things a lot easier to figure out now instead of being disappointed after you've married. And never never think that a child or marriage will smooth out a relationship. People are who they are and rarely change. So get it all figured out now before you make any serious relationship changes.
Always make yourself and your feelings a priority and well known to the person you love. And require the same in return.
2007-01-31 08:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your b/f just has a short fuse and out of anger says he would like to hit some kid who is behaving badly. I understand why you would be worried cause that type ot talk is scary. If it really bothers you then maybe you should talk to him one last time and ask him yourself why he talks so morally about being opposed to hitting and then turns around and lashes out his emotions towards others children. Atleast by talking to him you can feel better about your concerns and get the answer that you need from the primary source. Good Luck!
2007-01-31 08:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he wants to hit the other kids, but does he actually do it? There's a difference between saying and doing. When people are pissing me off, I've told them that I would hit them, but I never really would.
2007-01-31 08:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jay's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might just be saying that out of anger....it doesnt nessicaraly mean he wants to him. Or it could just be his way of saying he wishes the kid would stop. and one more thing...it could also be a figure of speach. If he is a good boyfriend he would lie to you. some parents will never hit their kids and then there are people that always do.
2007-01-31 08:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kristen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like one of the others said. Even if he feels like he wants to, it doesn't mean he will.
I've wanted to run over my boss with a car, that doesn't mean I am going to anytime soon.
There is also quite a difference when it's your own kids your dealing with, one by some reason develops way more patience with kids when it's your own instead of others.
2007-01-31 08:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just mad. Sometimes people won't hit their own kids but might hit others...so it's kinda hard to judge a person by his words only.
2007-01-31 08:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever someone gets mad, they'll say anything out of anger, but when it comes right down to it, that's a total different story, so more than likely, no.
2007-01-31 08:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Cartman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a huge difference between wanting to do something and actually doing it. I would never punch my boss in the face but it doesn't mean I don't WANT to do it sometimes.
2007-01-31 08:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No wanting to do something and actually doing it are 2 different things.
Ask yourself this question truly
Why am I picking apart what my man is always saying!
2007-01-31 08:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋