he says most of the friends he used to have are into drugs and he's not, thank God, but how does a teenager have friends? If you don't do drugs, you're alone. what's a mom to do for her son?
2007-01-31 00:12:23 · 13 answers · asked by Lindalou 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The same thing happened for me. Except that I was popular in elementary and middle school is when some of my friends went south. High school got tough not having very many friends. What I did is I just had to find the right people to hang with. I was in band but didn't hang with most of the band kids. So I was mostly a loner through my freshmen and sophomore year. My junior year came along and by that time I moved to a different city, I was so scared about not knowing anyone, but it just takes time to develop some good friends. I'm still in my junior year. Right now it's good that he doesn't do drugs, that's a great thing, and it's hard to keep off of them now a days, trust me, I know. I never did any but still it's hard. I would say start him up in doing a hobby. I did many, I joined my old schools TV production class where I met some nice people, I also joined civil war reenacting, and I recently joined the local sheriff departments explorer post, that is a great way to met kids ages 14 - 21 that are completely clean and very nice.
2007-01-31 12:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by bAsic LiFE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow be happy he's making the right choice.Get him involved in the arts like drama,music,art.Sports aren't that great and usually some people who play sports can be jerks.I'm not saying everyone but I think getting him in something creative would be a excellent choice.It's the best choice I ever made.What about giving him lessons for a musical instrument.Like the guitar or any instrument that interests him.What about painting? and drawing?.Drama is really fun you meet cool people.And don't worry about your sons popularity that's not everything.The so called 'popular' people aren't always the happiest people.Thank god that your son is healthy and made the good choice.I'm not popular at all but with a few good friends I'm happy.
2007-01-31 02:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position as your son is, dont worry he will eventually start getting more friends again, for awhile he may just have one or two good friends though, but soon he will find more. Try asking him if he wants to join some teams, or since volenteer hours are mandatory for graduation try and find some good volenteer places that include groups of teens and teamwork and stuff then ask him if he wants to do that (don force him!)... but sometimes the most you can do as a mother is be the mother, you cant butt into his social life and help him make friends because I promise you will not have good results, but you can help him gain friends by giving him oppertunities to access his peers.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-31 00:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was in the exact same situation as your son last year, the last two years of secondary school i became popular but now my group have friends are getting into fights every night, doing drugs, getting arressted and all that kind of stupid stuff! i sat indoors doing nothing all night every night but now im at college ive started making new friends ... i suggest to get him to socialize with other people more and get involved with people outside of school ...... maybe get him to join a club or something, maybe if he got a job he might meet new people
2007-01-31 04:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by dawsonboy09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he involved in sports, that would be a good way to meet someone new. How about clubs? Just have him invite someone new over. It's a tough transition but it will work out. Just don't worry about it. He has made a good decision and new friends will come around in time. I bet he isn't stressing over it, he is probably just happy to be out of a peer pressured situation.
2007-01-31 00:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by winslow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would try getting him into some type of club or organizations after school (something like P.A.L). These types of organizations are usually great at keeping children out of trouble. He will also be in the company of other boys who re trying to stay out of trouble. I would also like to congratulate you on raising your son properly.
2007-01-31 00:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by juicie813 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank God that he's not into drugs like his friends .It is better for him to have no friends then to have such people for company. If you can try to spend more time with him.And as he is a very sensible child & he deserves it.
2007-01-31 00:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by k.... 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your have a wonderful son..............be patient trust in your sons decision who he will be around ther is a lot of kids that dont do drugs that will be his friend u will see tell him to get involved in sports drugs is not allowed there or donate time to a boys n girls club thats fun....goodluck
2007-01-31 00:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by sunsettlh24 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try getting him involved in a local youth group or perhaps the SADD club in his school. He sounds like a good kid and there are others like him where he can fit in!!!!
2007-01-31 02:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Firefox88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 08:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋