I'm 26 and my wife is 25 , we are married for 2 years now , and have been friends for 10 years till now , my sister in law is 20 , means first i met her she was 10 and i was 16 , I saw my wife first and i loved her from the very begining . everything was ok till we start going to pools , there are/were so many girls which they all feel relax with me and i saw most of them totaly naked mostly while my gf/wife was/is present . but then naked body of my wife's sister which is almost like my wife with some pluses/minuses is killing me . since last xmas I never went to a place to see my sis-in-law even in short skirt , i avoided her , went to a psych and told her everything , also my wife knows i think har sis is really sexy , but doesn't know i am too much into it, i have no problem with my wife's sometimes naked friends and i feel like they are clothed . i can't avoid her anymore 'cause are feeling i am avoiding her , and i do really miss her but better not see her .
2007-01-31 00:11:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just give in and get it over with, obviously you don't really love your wife or you wouldn't be lusting after her sister.
2007-01-31 00:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by nivek191 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are reacting to a physical stimulus here.
Sorry- no sympathy from me.
If you were to tell me that you are in LOVE with your SIL because you loved the way she thought, laughed and smelled I'd be worried for your wife.
But that you find your SIL unforgettable because you remember what she looks like naked is not worth analysing.
You are seeing with your private member.
:-)
And if her body is so much like your wife's then what IS the reason for your mind's wanderings?
It is a problematic urge you are going to have to control. It is not acceptable in this society to "lust" after another woman when you are a married man. If you cannot deal with surpression then you need to seek help. IF your marriage to your wife means anything to you...
All the very best of luck.
2007-01-31 00:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE OFTEN DESIRE THE THINGS THAT WE KNOW WE CANT HAVE. MAYBE U FEEL THIS WAY CAUSE U KNO UR SIS IN LAW WOULD NOT DO THAT TO HER OWN SISTER.
YOU AND YOUR WIFE SAID YOUR VOWS TO EACH OTHER AND TO GOD TO BE AS ONE..
COULD YOU LIVE WITH YOURSELF FOR DESTROYIN A LOVE OF SISTERS?? MY EX-HUSBAND HAD AN AFFAIR WITH MY BROTHERS WIFE.. AND EVEN THIS ALMOST DESTROYED ME AND MY BROTHERS RELATIONSHIP. I EVEN TRIED TO TAKE MY OWN LIFE OVER WHAT A FEELING OF LUST DONE TO ME, AND IS WASNT MY FAULT, CAUSE I LOVED MY HUSBAND AND WAS TOTALLY DEVOTED TO HIM. IF YOU TRUELY LOVE SOMEONE, THEN U ARE TOTALLY IN TO THEM, AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE THAT HAS THE SAME BLOODLINES.
YOU NEED TO STOP SEEIN OTHER WOMEN NAKED, CAUSE ITS NOT RIGHT, EVEN IF YOUR WIFE IS THERE WHEN THESE OTHER WOMEN ARE NAKED.. AND IF THESE WOMEN R UR WIFES FRIENDS, THEN SHE NEEDS TO TELL THEM DONT DO THAT ANYMORE, CAUSE SOONER OR LATER **** WILL HAPPEN.. THAT IS JUST PUTTIN UR ALLS RELATIONSHIP AS ONE INTO HELL (SO TO SPEAK).. IF THEY ARE A TRUE FRIEND TO YOUR WIFE, THEN THEY SHOULDNT BE SO WILLIN TO DESTROY U ALL.. GOOD AND EVIL ARE BOTH PRESENT AT THE SAME TIME.. BUT IT IS US A AN INDIVIDUAL HUMAN BEING TO GIVE TO EACH PERSON THE LOVE AND RESPECT THAT WE WOULD WANT THEM TO GIVE TO US.. SO IT IS JUST A LUST OF SOMETHING THAT U KNOW U CANT HAVE. SO U NEED TO GO SOMEWHERE LIK INTO A ROOM AND GET INTO TOTAL DEEP THOUGHT ABOUT THE FEELINGS AND BAD THINGS THAT CAN COME FROM ACTING ON THE FEELINGS OF LUST.. I MEAN TOTALLY BLOCK OUT EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING ON AROUND YOU. I MEAN IF YOU REALLY GET IN TO THE SPIRIT THOUGHT, U DO NOT HEAR A SOUND OR EVEN KNOW THAT SOMEONE ELSE IS AROUND YOU.. "LOVE IS LIFE" "LUST IS DEATH" PLAIN AND SIMPLE..
You need to ask yourself what family means to U????
2007-01-31 01:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by tabygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just lusting over your sister in law. It is perfectly normal, but dont let it rule your life. You love your wife and dont let this brake up your marriage. It is very important that you speak to your wife about your feelings, communication is the most important thing in a relationship.
2007-01-31 00:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her. Think of the consequences if you end up fooling around with her and your wife finds out? You're asking for trouble, it's just a body- the things you have with your wife are more important. Don't risk it.
2007-01-31 00:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it is not a good idea to be in situations where you see and interact with other people while they are naked. You people are just asking for trouble. It is lust. Is your relationship with your wife worth loosing? You better get a grip. Lust will pass. Grow up or your are going to f**k up.
2007-01-31 00:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away, this is a dangerous thing, i don't think you should have been around any one else who was naked, most important your sister in law,,, that is just asking for trouble. And it is gross. Why do they get naked in front of you anyway? That is just not right.
2007-01-31 00:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why did you marry your wife in the first place? It sounds kind of pig-headed of you to marry a woman and think her sister is hotter. Grow up.
2007-01-31 00:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget her! There is no worse thing than hitting on your wife's sister! Think of your feature! Think of your wife's feelings!
2007-01-31 00:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Roubini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't believe your wife's ok with you seeing other people naked. you shouldn't compare them though...i hate being compared to my sister and it's really embarassing when people do compare us. i'd stay away from her for a bit and hopefully you'll eventually forget her. it doesn't mean you can't be friends just make sure she's always full clothed when you see her.
2007-01-31 00:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋