since he got home,i never saw him leave his mobile, it's always either on his pocket or kept in a place he thinks i do not know. the mobile's tone is off & he uses a pin code,but i discovered the code during those nights he thought i was already asleep, & i discovered the place he used to hide it. i didn't see any message, but i saw daily calls dialed & received from a phone with an area code where he worked. i asked him when he woke up. he said i'm just making stories, i said i know his code & i saw the calls. he got mad & left the house. he got home late at night & went straight to bed, he did not hide his mobile this time, but can't open it 'coz he changed the code! but i sure have my way,i got the code when he again thought i was sleeping, when he fell asleep, i discovered the calls again but did not confront him. a week after, he laid his mobile on the table, i took it & unlock it in front of him, i saw the calls he made. i slapped him twice, he said i am lucky he doesn't hurt me!
2007-01-31 00:03:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
on his first week of stay here, headmitted having a son in another country, but now he is denying it
2007-02-03 01:39:18 · update #1
Why stay with him he'll do it again.This might not be the first.You are worth a lot more then you think. There is some one out there that's a true person find him.
2007-01-31 00:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sound marriage is built on trust and the committment of both partners to making the marriage work.
You don't trust him....now he doesn't trust you not to check up on him.
He is not committed to making the marriage between the two of you work.
Look at your options - is it worth it to stay with this suspected cheater when you don't trust him. Is it worth it to stay with someone who does not appear to be committed to making your marriage work? Why would you want to stay in that relationship? If he admits he is/was wrong and is willing to get some sort of counseling, that is one thing. If he continues to hide his extracurricular activities, that is quite another.
You have to make the ultimate choice. Slapping is only the beginning of what may develop into a violent situation all the way around and will not solve anything. An immediate reaction to being slapped is to fight back and that will escalate into worse. Don't give him that window of opportunity.
Look at your options carefully. Talk to a minister or a counselor if you feel you need to to help you make a sound decision.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 00:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after reading this I am sure you are aware that if you decide to go through later on with divorce proceedings that you are going to need proof of your husbands infidelity. Just because you found out his code on his telephone does not mean anything. Sure he may have called other women, but what does that prove? You need to document if you can a list of all the calls that you have in question and find out exactly to who they were made to. Then you are going to have to have some kind of proof of some kind of extramarital affair. People call men and women every day and they do not have affairs. This is just speculation and hearsay. You really need to have some kind of proof like a picture of him kissing another woman or he and another woman together in the bed. Most of the time private investigators can do this service and get the proof, if indeed he is engaging in this kind of behavior. Phone calls people make every day without having affairs. If he has had an affair, you need to get proof of it, if you decide to proceed in anything.
2007-01-31 00:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding something for sure. Call the numbers you find in his phone and try to get some information on whether he is cheating or not. If you find out he is..... Leave him you deserve better then that.
Men take women for granted and women should be treasured dont let him treat you like a doormat.
2007-01-31 00:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel for you. as guess what should you do? well lets see start by changing the locks/pack up his necessary belongings and tell him he can come back with the police to get anything he may have left. or you sit down like grown ups no more head games-cards on the table and discuss the situation-no slapping ,bad words-remember ADULTS and make sound reliable decisions about the rest of your lives and how this impacts it. if he is east to anger forget discussion be safe
2007-01-31 00:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How do you -know- he cheated on you? Just because he has calls from a phone number in the area where he worked? That's not proof, hun. You might have slapped your husband for no reason. Everyone wants their privacy. Have him call the number while you're there and put it on speaker phone and see who answers.
2007-01-31 00:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might be cheating, cos if he is innocent, he wld have talk to u abt it and then explain and not hide anything or walk away. Have u tried calling that number and find out if its a girl?
2007-01-31 00:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if you want to continue playing this game or not??? If he cheated on you once, he will do it again. And he is by continuing the phone relationship. You don't say if you work or not??? If not, get a job and get out!!! Good luck to you.
2007-01-31 00:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to seek counseling if you both want the marriage to continue. If not a counselor, maybe a minister/priest. Good Luck
2007-01-31 00:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by K.W. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's hiding something or he wouldn't care if you know his code. You may want to ask him to decide if he really wants to be married to you or not.
2007-01-31 00:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋