They were together for 3 years, the kid is now 2 years old. She left him (went back to Poland) and told him that the child is not his - she's been together with other men while they were a couple.
He is obviously distraught! Though I can imagine the practical approach (take a lawyer, sue her, give DNA sample and check paternity) I am at a loss as to how to console him.
So I guess what I'm after from you today is some guidance in how to approach this topic, what he needs right now to make him feel better, how he can gain a positive attitude to give him sufficient energy in order to tackle the situation.
2007-01-30 23:00:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Buy him an internet wife and a new baby from eBay.
- KT.
2007-01-30 23:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
something similar happened to my brother,if they are not married he has few legal rights.the best thing he can do is to not give up try and keep in touch with the mother and child, send money for his child's needs, most importantly dont get involved in any petty squabbles because ultimately the mother has the majority of the law behind her. eventually if he keeps this up the mother will realise he is a decent man and agree to some form of access i.e visits or contact by phone or letters.wish him luck from me.
2007-01-30 23:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being an open ear id the best thing you can do. To truly support him it takes time, patience and of course, a great lawyer. My heart goes out to you. I hope you will help him find peace.
2007-01-30 23:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him, be supportive.
Let him know he can always come to you for a shoulder to cry on or if he just needs to talk.
Right now he is hurting so bad, I think a friend is exactly what he needs and just tell him it will all turn out fine.
Keep giving him reassurances.
2007-01-30 23:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is you cant help him you can only support him don't try fixing him up with other women just let him grieve then when he needs you just tell him how to go about it like getting a DNA test and getting access to his child
he is lucky to have a good friend as you just be patient with him
2007-02-03 11:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do his leg work for him - trawl the internet and find out as much information as you can, talk to anyone you can, be on hand when he's ready to start doing something, and make it as easy as possible, though I think it'll be tough to make much headway in this case.
2007-01-30 23:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why i believe you should not have children with people from other countries! how many parents lose their children when their partners go back to their home country.
all i can suggest is that you support him by listening when he's upset and going to solicitors meetings, court hearings etc. be by his side and he'll be ok.
2007-01-30 23:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by tra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend will give you a shoulder to cry on; a good friend will help you hide the body!
2007-01-30 23:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is old and wise enuff to get a girl pregnant he's old enuff to sort his own problems out. Dealing with his problems for him will just make things worse, take him out and get him pzzed up with a new model, he'll soon move on.
2007-01-30 23:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by "THE WISE ONE" 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for him. Be supportive and encourage him to fight for his rights to be a parent (as long as that is what he wants and will be a good parent).
2007-01-30 23:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sled Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him if he needs to talk about how hes feeling you cant do the court stuff for him but you can be there
2007-01-30 23:04:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋