Will you side with a girl of 24 who wants to marry an old man of 74 [being infactuated with him]?

Question

You may call it father figure complex, but in practical life things are different. What you think of this social issue? take out from your chest and be frank to say anything.
Sunder Thadani.

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Answer 1

She's 24. An adult. If she feels the 74-year old man is right for her, then let her be.
But honestly, she needs to be aware that she has a high probability of being a young widow.

Answer 2

I wouldn't endorse that relationship. Although I don't doubt that there may be some "feelings" involved, they aren't healthy feelings. A girl of 24 is somewhere totally different in her life than a man of 74. In a situation like this, the most likely reason for the "feelings" is going to be the desire for a father figure, or deep admiration perhaps that is incorrectly designated as "love". The man of 74, if he cares about her, should not allow the relationship to procede to marriage. She will lose out on a great deal of life's enjoyment during such a developmental time. No matter what people say about "age just being a number" the reality is that people with large age gaps have more working against them than a number. At 19 I was not the same person I was at 17. At 21 I am not the same person I was at 20. And so on and so forth. Changes in our personalities, habits, lifestyles, etc. continue to decrease the older we get, but at 24 she is still very much changing. I wouldn't even endorse the marriage of a 24 yr. old. to a 49 yr. old and that's HALF the age difference.

Answer 3

since alot of people have already gave you the be carefull answers I don't think I need to go too much into details with those.

money, public image, stage in life, his health, ect.

However If you both truelly understand what you are getting into then I'm totally on your guys's side. At age 24 she is a legal adult so I have no say over what she does and at 74 I deffenately have no say over him.

The only problem I see with this relationship is I really can't see true love on either side, the reason I say this is; If the 74 year old truely loved the 24 year old they would not marry them. The reason is he knows that all he would be doing is causing her pain in the end. He would die on an average in 6 years and she would moarn (average age for a man today is roughly 80yrs old). And She could not truely love him knowing this. But like I said before I have no say nor does anyone else has any say in this so I am on thier side.

Nobody has the right to push thier beliefs on others.

Answer 4

If she were my daughter, I might have some difficulty with this (in part because I, too, would be affected/involved). But, regardless, at 24, she is an adult able to make her own decisions. No matter what kind of psychological spin people might put on it, we all have a right to choose our own life path, even if that means making mistakes along the way. As long as the relationship is one of love, honesty and respect, and not in any way exploitative or violent, then I would say that they can do what they want. They may realize soon after that the age difference is too great, that her goals and desires have changed over time, or that their time together is too brief because of his advanced age. Either way, who are we to dissuade someone who has every right to make their own decision just because we think it might be difficult or socially frowned upon?

Answer 5

Okay, so you're 74 and she is 24. So, what is the problem? I see you have a 360* page and you're are on yahoo answers so I would guess that you also find interest in other things that seem to be mostly connected to the younger generation. Perhaps music, movies, etc. If you find that you love her and she loves you and the two of you are happy together, hey nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

I agree that nobody has the right to push their beliefs on others. Sure, there might be some underlying psychological issues and people might stare at you, but if you can get past that you two just might be very happy with each other! You also might end up hating each other.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that if it makes you happy, go for it. We only live once!!

Answer 7

Does this guy happen to have plenty of money? Get real. What does a 24 year old have in common with a 74 year old except they are both human. That's about the only thing you have in common.

Answer 8

In the old days I would have say no. But now I see how intoxicating the beauty of younger WOMEN becomes as you age. So, I say go for it. Woman can say anything they want.But you can't deny truth. It not that anything is wrong with older women, but they really do lose their playfulness.

Answer 9

Actually, I am only 14 but I think I can answer your question...

I think that girl wants your money.. If I am not mistaken Mr..??
Follow what your heart tells you...

I hope my opinion will help you think about it although it's a different situation here in the Philippines..

Answer 10

Depends...
first you should know whether the girl really likes the man or not or is she just getting married to him cause he's old and rich and would die soon. some people are wierd. she defiantly wont be getting any sexual pleasure out of the relationship... but i would be against it and would like to put some sense into her head!