my best friend father died today..but i dont knoe wat to do?..juz console her or wat??must i hug her n juz cry along..i do not knoe at all..pls help me out yar..
2007-01-30 22:10:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there for her, you don't need to cry too if you don't feel that way. A hug will probably be very necessary, and you should listen to her and try and anticipate her needs.
Remember she is very fragile at the moment, so be as understanding as you can and make time for her if she needs you.
You should be able to tell whether she needs just comforting or distraction to take her mind off things. To be honest, assuming she has some, she will probably want to spend a lot of time with family for a while, again just give her space for a while if she needs it.
You are a good friend for wanting to be help her, but there is no easy answer on this one I'm afraid.
2007-01-30 22:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Whateverandeverandamen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, console her, hug her, be a shoulder to cry on. Tell her how sorry you are for her loss. Go to the viewing, if there is one, attend the funeral and wake. Do whatever it is that her faith and practices demand. Afterwards, just be patient and caring. Just because the funeral is over, doesn't mean it's all OK. You have good instincts, follow your heart. At some point, she'll be angry, that's part of grieving, so just be there for her.
2007-01-30 22:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her - when my friends fathers have died (a few now) I have been honest with them and let them know that I don't know what they are going through, but if they want to talk about their favourite memories of their father to do so. If you knew him you could say something like "the one thing I really like about your dad was.........." and maybe that her father would be really proud of her because of............
A small gift of maybe a photo of her and her dad, or even a photo frame and put a note in the frame saying to put a photo of her and her dad in there, might be a nice thought.
Just be there for your friend, and don't expect for the grief to go away overnight, it may take years for your friend to start to get over the loss of her father.
One last thing, don't feel that you can't bring her father up in conversation down the track as well, it may make her a little sad but she will respect you for thinking about her father.
2007-01-30 22:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what comes natural, don't spend too much time on what you should do or contemplating every move, let feelings and instinct take over, just be there for her, that is all she needs right now.
2007-02-03 21:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 05:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by duktig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a question, and all the bullcrap answers, there is no cut and dry answer to this question, get by that friend, shut your mouth, and just be there to support and do what ever comes up, there is no dress rehersal for this.
2007-01-30 23:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by countryboy1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make she know how much u love her n make sure she alert on how much love left for her in the world.. she will feel terible coz she think she is lack of love, for God sake, her father died, it must be lonely...
2007-01-30 22:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by pinky sakura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand by her side. let her know dat your there for her. my friend has been there for me seen my father passed away just 3 days after xmas. and i am really happy they are there
2007-01-31 04:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by honey + biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the time she needs u the most
2007-01-30 22:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Console her.... tell her don't be sad..
2007-01-30 22:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Leo Juv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋