WOuld you know what to do to try and save it and if not would you take the good advise of someone, even God to save what he has put together and bound together as one?
2007-01-30 21:23:56 · 11 answers · asked by uniquechild 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would definitley work on it and try to save it the best way that i knew how with marriage counseling and things like that. I would pray and ask God for guidance and for help with this... I would read the book the Power of a Praying wife and let God lead me and my decisions... I would not just up and quit on my marriage for just any reason that is for sure. God can save your marriage and bring that bond and love feeling back. However if my husband did not love me and he wanted out of the marriage and no matter what we tried did not work i would let him go because the Bible does say if the unbelieving spouse wants out let them depart and brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases. Also if i was being abused i would get out!
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2007-01-30 21:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would always try to save a marriage, and would do whatever it took, but unfortunately sometimes we don't know our marriage is that bad, until the person has already gone and with someone else. if the person refuses to go to therapy or seek god, there isn't much hope. we can ask god to restore our marriages but sometimes even god can't unharden someones heart, as everyone has free will to do whatever they want to do, which god never interferes with. it takes two to breakup a marriage and two to restore it, at some point if the person doesn't come back we have to realize they are not going to.
2007-01-30 21:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, i would not quit on marriage...and i don't think anybody else should either...everything should be done to save the marriage first before ending everything that began together in the first place...but how much would one be willing to forgive and do people actually put the bad behind them and start over?? I think that sometimes love might be enough but then again you never know unless you're in there experiencing it for yourself...
2007-01-30 21:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fact ..the average home in the U.S. is a single mom with her kids. sad but their are more single moms then married couples.
if its worth saving and you made vows then BOTH of you have to com mitt to staying together..get an outside opinion on what you are doing wrong.
Maybe you are not as messed up as you think. But whatever you do don't keep drifting apart as the average for couples staying together is about as bad as it gets in the world today.
Prayer will help.
get some good advice that both of you can live with
don't give up on yourself as kids really need two parents
it will make life easier for everyone in the long run
good luck I wish you well
2007-01-30 21:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i understand precisely what your coping with and that's a annoying highway i've got been on it for 8 years, and that's a stable marriage i'm in different than for the intercourse. we've tried the finished "bypass" element and it bring about resentment. that's annoying. do you should stay or bypass hummmm. it somewhat is a annoying question. i'm a believer in making it paintings, by employing any potential. Then i think of i will't help you simply by fact i'm in the comparable boat as your self. i'm nonetheless unsure, yet in addition she provides you to alter, you have what I even have on my palms.... A companion it somewhat is coping with passive-aggressive dispositions. i've got found out coping with a passive-aggressive man or woman,, they are going to in no way exchange, they are going to in no way quite somewhat care approximately your desires, and there is surely no communication which will help. that's difficult, and marriage is a dedication. What helps me get by way of it somewhat is understanding the subsequent woman might desire to be worse. Passive aggressive is a ailment that they progressed as a coping skill progressed considering the fact that they have been a newborn, and in basic terms counseling might help, yet face it they might in no way exchange.
2016-12-17 06:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only I would, but I did.
I don't think God makes choices for me... and quite frankly, I don't think God would want anyone to me miserable because of a relationship that did not work...
My kids are much happier after my marriage ended. So am I. So is my ex.
The only think that I see bound to God is our obligation to be and give happiness to others.
As such, I am sure I have his permission to do whatever it takes to make it happen.
2007-01-30 21:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would do everything l could to save my marriage. I would not quit and walk away easerly
2007-01-30 21:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by cailieco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't guit, but it takes work from both husband & wife to save a marriage. My wife left me, cheated on me, disrespected the hell out of me to her friends,lies on top of lies made fun of the fact that I would get down on my knees and cry for her. But she stills wants to divorce me. Yet I tried everyday to show my commitment to her & our marriage. But I have tried & showed God what's in my heart, & that I tried to keep what God himself brough together intact. Based on my love for her & our children and the vows that we made to eachother. My heart may have been broken, but by the way she has treated and been treating me I know I'll be alright. She once told me life goes on & to get over it, I never saw my life without her in it. But it is what it is. So to all of you out there that have tried but in the end it just didn't work out for you. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
2007-01-30 22:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would not quit i think that quitting on marraiges is a prob of our society. well you just have to learn to see where things are going wrong and what u are doing wrong and to realise u can not control the actions of anyone including ur spouse, u can only deal with u. you can only quit if your partner has giving up too
2007-01-30 21:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by kelly h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
would think many times. Chances are you may land up in another similar thing again.,
2007-01-30 21:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋